Parenting Tips

juneparenting.com

2007-07-07T17:29:00.000+08:00

Yes, finally it has been launched today - 07/07/07.

So log on to http://www.juneparenting.com/ NOW for the new fresh look.

New Website coming up

2007-06-30T22:08:00.000+08:00

Yes, it's coming. Had intended to release the new website this month because it's JUNE.

Well, still have some touch-ups to do. So, be patient. It will be really soon.

Monthly Reflections 0705

2007-05-31T23:23:00.000+08:00

Today is Vesak Day and also my dad's 1st death anniversary. How time flies? It has been one year since he left us. We still miss him.

For this month, my achievements are:

Attended refresher course on SEO Web Design.
Wrote article on "Family Culture" and submit to Society of Singapore Writers for their year book publication.
Passed the written exam on Education Success Coach, after the 2 attempt.
Completed the 1 week practical course on Education Success Coach (waiting for the result of the practical exam).
Was at Temasek JC to give talks on Family Bonding.
Managed to upload all existing posts from this blog site to my new web site.
Did Reiki on a number of people in need and glad to see that their conditions did improve.
Managed to enrol only 3 students for the self-improvements courses.
Attended Cedar Girls' Sec Sch 50th Anniversary Dinner on 19/5.
Borrowed 2 books from the library for my parenting workshop reference.
Had 1 facial treatment done.
Had dinner with 2 good friends whom I not met for some time.
Attended course by WINGS on writing my biography. Intend to have the article published when I complete it.

Tasks to be done in June 2007:

Go for roadshow at Dhoby Ghaut MRT on 1/6 and 4/6.
Give a talk on "Family Bonding thru fun and fitness" on 9/6 at StarDus Clubhouse.
Be facilitator on 12/6 and 19/6 for talk by Jason and Jolly.
Assist Maurice on SSW talk on 18/6.
Attend course by WINGS on every Thursday afternoon from 2 - 4 pm.
Attend Reiki workshop on 29/6 and 30/6 (have enrolled my husband and sister for this session).
Must find time to clear the plastic bags still piling in my room.
Get my sister to help me call leads that are coming in from several people.

Preparing for my new website

2007-05-20T22:32:00.000+08:00

Hi Singapore parents
In case you are wondering what is happening, I have been working on my new website.

It's going to be refreshing. So, be on the look out.

Will keep you updated.

Bye for now.

Delights and Woes of the Week 0718

2007-05-06T22:26:00.000+08:00

This week, things tend to slow down a bit, with exams going on.

Well, the delights are:

My eldest girl, Yulin, set forth her back-pack trip to Europe on 01 May with 2 other friends. First destination is to Athens, Greece. At last update, she is in Italy today. Lots of fun, she said, and getting tanner by the day.
Did the written exam of Education Success Coach the second time and passed. The score for the first round was 75 and 90 for the second attempt. The passing mark is 80. Looking forward to the practical course and exam at the end of this month.
Attended refresher course on SEO Web Design. Glad to make new friends and learn some more tips.

For woes, there are a couple this week. First, 4 families cancelled their appointments for the complimentary workshop due to school exams. Happy to take a break and rest at home.

Yesterday, the computer broke down. Apparently, the hard disk crashed. Have gotten someone to fix it. The damage is going to cost more that $200 for hard disk replacement, recovery and workman costs. Sigh . . . one of those days.

Monthly Reflections 0704

2007-05-01T22:49:00.000+08:00

It's another month with one third of the year gone.

For April, my achievements are:

Submitted income tax claim before 15/4 deadline.
Settled web hosting selection. In the course of switching to wordpress.
Submitted final insurance claim for Lawrence on 'Total Permanent Disability' ground to Great Eastern.
Brought mum to Modern Beauty at Toa Payoh and both of us had our facial done there. It was the first time for mum.
Finally settled the application for the maid and she is now at my mum's place.
For Art Outreach, shared with the students of Pei Tong, Jurong and Methodist Girls primary schools on public sculpture and art fundamental 1.
On Good Friday evening, attended the 1st Friday Writers Corner of The Society of Singapore Writers. Shared with those present on Nurturing Kids on Literacy Appreciation.
Met the Chinese scholar from Cedar Girls' Sec Sch. Her name is Li Jing. Had an outing with her to Changi Village on 8/4, Yulin's birthday. On the following weekend, my 2 younger girls had table-tennis and badminton with her at The Civil Service Club. Last Friday, invited her to our house to have a home-cooked meal.
Had my regular monthly Reiki session on 14/4. This time round, all the 5 kakis turned up and we sure had a good time 'roasting' each other.
Brought Lawrence for his quarterly check-up at Toa Payoh clinic on 18/4. He lost another kg. Sure need to work harder to reduce further.
Brought Lawrence for his monthly massage at The Adelphi on 19/4.
In the same evening, attended the CPT Alumni with 14 other participants.
Attended Cedar Girl's Sec Sch Sports Day on 20/4. Participated in the Parent cum Staff relay event.
Accompanied my mother-in-law on 2 occasions to SCH for her regular check-up.
Managed to enrol 5 students for the self-improvement courses with Mindchamps this month.
Took the written exam on Education Success Coach last night. Although there were 40 multiple-choice questions, it sure was a tough paper.

Tasks to be done in May 2007:

Must do more brisk walking with my husband again. Need to monitor further weight loss for him and myself.

Must clear half the plastic bags which are piling in the room. Balance to be completed in June.

Apply the parenting and NPL strategies learned, where appropriate.

Have my regular monthly massage and facial done.

Continue to Reiki those in need.

Target to enrol 10 students for self-improvement courses that will benefit them in the long term.

Go to the library and internet to gather materials on parenting tips.

Re-write any blog articles and switch to wordpress for my new website.

Set aside time to train new maid for my mum as a companion and help with household chores.
Attend refresher course on SEO web design.
Attend Cedar Girls' Sec Sch 50th Anniversary Dinner on 19/5.
Attend practical Education Success Coach training.

Delights and Woes of the Week 0717

2007-04-29T22:54:00.000+08:00

It has been a rainy week so I chose to stay home most of the time. Well, still there are delights:

Glad that my eldest girl, Yulin, had enjoyed her trip at Phuket (24/4 - 27/4).
Accompanied my mother-in-law to the polyclinic at National Health Promotion Board, near Singapore General Hospital. She had fasted the previous night and had her blood test done. Despite her discomfort, she was in good spirit.
Invited Li Jing (the Chinese scholar) for dinner on Friday. She sure was a small eater. I suppose that is how she maintains her slim figure.
Got quite a number of families to attend the complimentary workshop on Saturday. Although some of them did not turn up, I still had one enrolment done.
This afternoon, met up with Valli, parent of the Indian boy who enrolled last week. After settling the balance payment, gave her a copy of Deeper Than The Ocean. Thereafter, took her around Toa Payoh Central to familiarize herself with the surroundings.

For the woe, my mum is finding difficulty in communicating with the new maid, Misti. My sister and I see it as a positive stress where she will be kept on her toes. We told her to take it as a challenge for both of them to get to know each other better.

Delights and Woes of the Week 0716

2007-04-23T23:43:00.000+08:00

It has been another busy and eventful week. First, the delights:

Completed the 3 Artistry Beauty Workshops conducted by Amway spread over 3 Mondays (2/4, 9/4 and 16/4). Learned quite a number of tips on how to do a proper facial, scrub, massage and mask.
Was back to Methodist Primary school for the 2nd time and shared with class 4.3 on public sculpture.
Bought my husband for his quarterly check-up at Toa Payoh Polyclinic. Glad that that his cholesterol has gone down. So was his weight, about 1 kg lighter.
Did the time table for the young gentleman whose parents signed him up for the program at Mindchamps last week. Apparently, he is still spending a lot of time on computer. My colleague and I explained the importance of setting goal and prioritizing his tasks.
Bought my husband for his monthly massage at Adelphi. Thereafter, had curry fish head at the basement of Peninsula Centre.
The Singapore CPT Alumni Networking this week had 15 CPT attendees. Expect more participation next month as Teoh Poh Yew will be the guest speaker.
Attended the annual Sports Day of Cedar Girls' Secondary School. Also participated in the Parent cum staff race. Sure had fun.
Got my husband, 2nd sister and a friend to attend the Reiki preview at Le Meridien Hotel. Was glad that my friend had signed up for the workshop to be held in late Jun and early Jul. My sister also indicated interest to enrol. Will sign up for my husband too.
Got my first pay-check, after 4 months without income. Intend to see more of this coming. Yesterday, successfully closed 3 cases of enrolments for the learning technique programs.
The maid for my mum finally came in today. Quite a pleasant girl aged 23. My mum and I had quite a bit of hard time communicating with her in Malay. Was at Bras Basah tonight and managed to get a Chinese-Malay-English dictionary. Hopefully, this will improve our language barrier.

For the woe, my mother-in-law is still in pain, especially at night. My husband and eldest girl paid her visit yesterday. This Wednesday, I will be accompanying her to see doctor. Just wish I could cheer her up in some way.

Delights and Woes of the Week 0715

2007-04-15T21:08:00.000+08:00

Until my new web page is ready, I will continue to update what are my weekly delights and woes . . .

For this week, the delights are:

On Monday afternoon, brought mum for facial at Modern Beauty Salon at Toa Payoh. This is her time attempt. She just enjoyed it but has no intention to sign on any package.
On Tuesday, finally selected the web hosting company and signed up with them. Thereafter, consulted my 'sifu' on how to switch to wordpress (still in progress).
On Wednesday afternoon, Courts delivered the new set of sofa to my house and disposed of the old one which had a bad tear on one side of the big sofa.
On Thursday afternoon, went to Jurong Primary School to share with Class 3G on the 6 elements of art, namely, line, shape, space, texture, colour and pattern. It was raining outside the classroom but that the children were just as responsive and chatty.
On Friday evening, was at Cedar Girls' Secondary School for Meet-the-Parent session as my youngest girl is Sec 4 this year. As usual, I get feedback from the teachers. Am glad that she will be released of her duties as Head Prefect soon. Then, she can concentrate more on her studies.
On Saturday afternoon, 5 other Reiki kakis turned up at my place for the monthly 'roasting' session. 2 of them joined us for the 1st time. Expect them to join us in future.
Today, one family attended the study workshop and the parents signed up after some deliberation. They are PRs from India and have been in Singapore for 3 years. Their only boy is somewhat addicted on computer games. Will be meeting them again next week to help draw up a time-table for the young gentleman.

For the woe, my mother-in-law needs to go for a bone scan next week after the doctor examined her on Wednesday. He wanted to make sure that there is no recurrence of cancer cells elsewhere in her body. She still cannot straighten her body when she lies down on the bed. Hence, her sleep has been affected. Really hope she will recover soon and resume her social activities.

New Look for my blog

2007-04-13T22:16:00.000+08:00

Hi Singapore parents

I am in the process of upgrading my existing blog to a new look and at a more prominent web hosting site.

Will update you with more details soon. Be on the look out.

Bye for now.

Getting a Maid

2007-04-11T23:10:00.000+08:00

The last time I had a maid was more than 5 years ago. Recently, because of my mum, we had to start sourcing for one again. To expedite the application process, here are some tips:

About the agent

A ttitude and service of agent must be good
G et checklist on documents required for processing of application
E nquire on processing time and expected 'delivery' of maid
N eed to know, besides the general charges, what other costs are involved, e.g. medical check-ups, maid levy, return air-fare, etc
T ake a look at their contracts between agent/maid and agent/employer - this is important because employer needs to know what is expected of them and that of the maid

About the maid

M ust match the requirements of the employer, e.g. willing to take care of the elderly, able to cook, etc
A ppealing and pleasant looking and to the liking of the employer (at least from the photo)
I ndicate what is expected of her on the first meeting, e.g. listen to whatever grandma says
D raft out a list of tasks to be done daily, weekly, monthly, for ease of management

Parents, hope the above tips help. We all love our children. Remember, she is also someone else daughter so during her stay in Singapore, ensure that she is:

well fed
have enough rest
treated by a doctor when she is ill
not physically or mentally abused
not at risk when performing her task

Brococli with Button Mushrooms

2007-04-10T22:07:00.000+08:00

Singapore parents, do try out the following nutritious and healthy dish which is relatively easy to prepare and cook.

Ingredients (Serves 4 - 6)
300 g broccoli
100 g fresh button mushrooms
1/2 carrot, sliced
2 red chillies, cut into stripes
2 cloves garlic, minced
2 Tsp oyster sauce
1 1/2 dsp unsaturated oil

Method

1. Wash broccoli and cut into small florets. Cook in 1 cup of boiling water for 3 to 5 minutes, remove and drain. Keep the balance water for boiling carrot.
If using a microwave oven, cover and cook on high for 30 seconds.

2. Scrub carrot and cook in boiling water for 3 minutes. Save the water as stock.
If using a microwave oven, cover and cook on high for 2 minutes. Remove carrots and slice.

3. Heat oil and fry chillies and garlic until fragrant. Add in broccoli, carrots and button mushrooms. Stir-fry for 2 minutes. Add in half cup of vegetable stock and simmer for 5 minutes.

4. Add in the oyster sauce and mix well. Remove from heat and serve.

Delights and Woes of the Week 0714

2007-04-09T23:33:00.000+08:00

Yesterday was a day without computer as my family was at Changi Village. Occasion - my eldest girl's birthday.

So what are delights for this week???

On Monday and Tuesday evenings, we have review on the Neuro-Linguistic Programming. The trainer completed the belief and value aspects. The hands-on activities enable each of us to know our classmates better. Must put the tips offered to practice though.
On Tuesday morning, was at Pei Tong Primary School sharing with Class 5B on public sculptures. Less than 20 students were present with majority boys and they sure are talkative.
On Wednesday, called a number of prospects to invite them for the study workshop on learning techniques. So far, confirmed booking for 2 of them.
On Thursday, finally did the e-filing for my Income Tax.
On Friday evening, was at YMCA for the 1st Friday Writers Corner of The Society of Singapore Writers. Was glad to share with those present on Nurturing Kids on Literacy Appreciation (refer to blog dated 6 May 2007).
On Saturday morning, was at Cedar Girl's Secondary School to meet the scholar assigned to my family under the Parent Guardian Program. Her name is Li Jing and is a very pleasant and sweet girl from Fujian, China.
Yesterday (Sunday), I invited Li Jing to join our family outing. First, we had lunch at Sizzler, Toa Payoh. Then, we proceeded to Changi Village Hotel. 5 of us dip ourselves in the pool at the roof top level for an hour while 2 of them stayed in the room and watched TV. Dinner was a mixture of dim sum, satay, fried hokkien mee and fried oyster at Changi Village.

For the woe, my sister and I were rather annoyed that the maid agent has yet gotten the maid for us. So on Friday afternoon, we finally meet up with her to sort out the issues to expedite the application. It would still required another 2 weeks . . . sigh . . .

Parent Guardian Programme

2007-04-07T20:27:00.000+08:00

Cedar Girls' Secondary School offered this programme to foreign students since 2005. This year, I volunteered to be a parent guardian. This scheme aims to enable foreign students studying at Cedar to settle down in Singapore with much ease and reduce their home-sickness.

Today, I get to meet the scholar from China. Her name is Li Jing. She is 17 and an only child. Her hostel is quite near my place so I would expect frequent visits from her. During this morning's interaction, we got to know each other better.

Tomorrow, I have invited her to join my family for an outing to Changi Village. That will be the first time she gets to meet my whole family.

Well, will keep you people updated as we progress further . . .

Nurturing Kids on Literacy Appreciation

2007-04-06T23:08:00.000+08:00

This evening, was at YMCA for the 1st Friday Writers Corner of The Society of Singapore Writers. I had been requested to talk on the above subject and below is what I shared with those present.

Literacy can be both spoken and written. Basically, we have to first look at the 4 developmental stages of children and these are:

1) Sensory Stage (from birth to age 2)

At this stage, the children learn through the 5 senses, namely, touching, tasting, seeing, hearing and smelling. It is more of physical knowledge exploration.

While children at this stage cannot write, parents can actually read to them. The more stories they are exposed to, the more they will be enticed to read once they get the thrill of what is written inside the books.

2) Pre-operational Stage (from 2 - 7 years)

At this stage, the children are more in the 'ME' world. The focus is on themselves, gathering information and the environment around them. They prefer the use of symbols to represent objects. They learn from concrete evidence, i.e. the non-abstract aspect. They are also unaware of another person's perspective.

While children at this stage may know more words, it is still too early to expect to be able to write well. It is still more of the spoken literacy that parents can inculcate. Continue to expose them to books and also let them know of the external environment affecting them.

3) Concrete Operational Stage (from 7 - 11 years)

At this stage, the children are able to think logically and there is increase awareness of external events. They are also in a better position to express literally in writing. Some may still not be comfortable with the abstract aspect though. Nonetheless, parents can still introduce abstract ideas to them and let them learn at their own pace.

For this age group, parents may want to arouse their interest in sharing their delights and woes of the day. It is a good way to interact.

4) Formal Operational Stage (from 11 and beyond)

At this stage, the children should be at secondary level. In terms of brain development, it is a 'critical mass' of experience to fully blossom before they grow into adults. They are inclined literally to more abstract associations. They are also able to plan and think ahead; reflect and evaluate; form and test hypotheses.

Until their frontal lobes of the brain are fully developed, teenagers tend to react and interpret the external stimuli with emotional and 'gut feeling' responses. Pressing them to focus on different aspects of a problem simultaneously can produce an internal tension. This can lead to frustration or anger reaction.

To cultivate literacy appreciation for this age group, parents should feel free to discuss with them on any topic. Make it a routine or habit to set aside some time each day and talk on:

Happenings in schools (from child)
Happenings at work (from parents
Current affairs in Singapore
Current affairs around the world
Composition topics
Projects that they may be involved in

Hope parents will find the above tips useful.

Before I conclude, I read out the 'LOVE' letter that my youngest daughter wrote to me and my husband on 5 Jan 2007 (please refer to my blog dated 06/01/2007).

Qing Ming

2007-04-05T23:39:00.000+08:00

Yes, today is the actual Qing Ming day (the 18th day of the Lunar 3rd month). All Chinese Singaporeans, be it Buddhists, Christians, Taoists and whatever, will make it a point to pray respect to their lost beloved ones. This can be done 10 days before or 10 days after this day. It is a Chinese culture being practised all over the world too.

For my family, it is no exception. Previously, we prayed only my father-in-law and my husband's grandmother. This year, my dad has been included. As expected, be it the temples or crematoriums, they are packed by family members of parents and children, gathered together to give offerings to the dead.

As it is coming to a year, I thought I have gotten over my dad's demise. However, when I saw his photo on the tablet, tears just rolled down again. But it is a good feeling . . . it's just that I still miss him. Now I know why my mum is reluctant to visit my 'dad'. She just gets too emotional missing him.

I must say mum is coping well, of late. Hopefully, with the maid coming in, she will be her own self again. Come next month will be dad's 1st anniversary. But papa, no matter how many anniversaries, we are still going to miss you. If you do have anything you want to tell me, do come into my dreams . . .

Fantastic Mushrooms

2007-04-03T17:03:00.000+08:00

Today, I would like to share with you the fantastic range of mushrooms available in Asia.

White button mushrooms

These are round, plump, creamy and mild. The fresh and canned forms are the most available. As they mature, their caps partially open and they are better known as cap or big mushrooms. Whites may be used raw in salads, stir-fried, braised, baked or sauted . They can also be cooked with other vegetables, nuts, meat, poultry, fish and shellfish, rice, pasta, noodles and breads.

Shiitake or black mushrooms
These are brown to black umbrella-shaped mushrooms with caps that are 1 inch to 3 inches in diameter. They can either be thin or thick with or without white fissures. Of all mushrooms, shiitakes are more preferred and more available in their dried form because these are more fragrant.

Soak these in boiling water for 30 minutes or warm water for a few hours or tap water overnight. Either way, your shiitakes will be tender but those soaked in tap water will be the tastiest. Reserve the soaking liquid for stock. Shiitake is used in soups, stir-fries, steaming, boiling and braising. It is also a favourite for vegetarian dishes because of their intense flavor and meaty texture. They combine well with bland ingredients.

Black mushrooms
These come mainly from China and are known as "the plant of immortality" because of their legendary restorative properties. They have been used to treat colds, flu, poor circulation, stomach upset and exhaustion. Shiitake black mushrooms has two times more protein than button mushrooms.

Black tree ears or cloud ears
These are almost always sold dried. According to the Chinese, they "keep the blood fluid," or help improve circulation. Black tree ears are also used as medicines as they help fight atherosclerosis and improve blood clotting.

Although flavorless, these are delightfully crunchy. To use, soak tree ears in warm water for 30 minutes to an hour. When soft, trim off any gritty base then rinse thoroughly. Tree ears go well with soups, glass vermicelli, spring rolls and poultry.

Oyster mushrooms
These are cultivated or wild. They grow in clusters of fan-shaped caps that are creamy gray. They have a smooth texture and mild flavor reminiscent of the sea, hence the name. Large ones are torn and added to soupy, stir-fried and even grilled dishes during the last minutes of cooking.

Straw mushrooms
These are grayish brown mushrooms grown on beds of rice straw in Hong Kong, China, Taiwan, Malaysia, Java in Indonesia and the Philippines. Fresh straw mushrooms are available only in Asian markets. Canned straw mushrooms must be drained and rinsed thoroughly before use. These combine well with other ingredients in soups, saute braises and grilled fare.

Enoki mushrooms
These whitish with their tiny dot-like caps and long slender stems resemble needles. They can be bought at supermarkets in fresh clumps. Enoki is best added raw to salads or as half-cooked garnish for soups and other hot dishes.

Creminis (brown button mushrooms) or portobello mushrooms
These are the brown and stronger-flavored versions of white mushrooms available seasonally at high-end Asian supermarkets. Portobellos are full-grown creminis with thick, meaty and robustly flavored caps that can grow up to 6 inches in diameter. They are versatile mushrooms that are great for almost all types of cooking methods including grilling and broiling whole.

Singapore parents, hope you have found the tips on treatments of the various mushrooms useful.

Next week, will share with you more dishes using different mushrooms. . .

Delights and Woes of the Week 0713

2007-04-01T20:10:00.000+08:00

It was another busy week for me, going all over Singapore again. First, the delights:

Shared with my mum what I have been doing at schools. She was pleased that I am enjoying what I am doing.
Went to Balestier Hill and Fuchun primary schools on Tuesday and Wednesday mornings. Talked to them on Public Sculptures. They sure had fun.
On Tuesday evening, attended Exam Strategies for Parents. Shared some of the tips I picked up during the session with my 2 younger girls. Just hope they will make use of them.
On Wednesday night, was glad to meet my colleague again and let her know more about the Certified Professional Trainer's programme that I had attended.
Thursday to Saturday, was busy trying to get another 3 enrolments to meet my target of 12 for the month. Must say my efforts paid off.
Today is relaxation day. Had slight flu this morning so I rested myself lazing on the bed and did some light reading. It has been a long long time since I last did this.

Now for the woe. My mother-in-law is still having her leg pains. My sister-in-law is arranging for a Chinese physician to see her tomorrow. I wish her speedy recovery.

Monthly Reflections 0703

2007-03-31T23:14:00.000+08:00

This has been an eventful month for me.

So far, my achievements are:

Had 2 facials done in the month.
Attended several workshops - Parenting Strategies, Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) and Exam Strategies for Parents.
Had the kitchen cabinet with ant hive fixed.
Taught Perseverance for Success to P5 and P6 students at Huamin Primary School.
Was at Bukit View Secondary School as facilitator for Perseverance for Success workshop.
Shared with P4 and P2 students on Public Sculptures at Balestier Hill and Fuchun primary schools respectively.
Had a booth in Bras Basah Complex Book Fair. Learning techniques were introduced to parents and children. Invitations were also made to them to go for complimentary study workshops.
Was at my mum’s place twice a week (except the book fair week) and kept her company at home.
Visited my mother-in-law who was having leg pain. Did Reiki on her but did not seem to help much.
Managed to enrol 12 children for the self-improvement courses, with much help from my colleagues.
Ordered a new set of sofa to replace the existing one which is wearing out with tears.

Task to be done in Apr 2007:

Must start brisk walking with my husband again.

Clear all the plastic bags which are piling in the room.

Apply the parenting and NPL strategies learned.

Have my regular monthly massage and facial done.

Continue to Reiki those in need.

Target to enrol 10 students for self-improvement courses that will benefit them in the long term.

Start gathering materials on parenting tips.

Settle web hosting selection and switch to wordpress for my new website.

Set aside time to train new maid for my mum as a companion and help with household chores.

Singapore parents, hope you did spend some time with your children or family during the one-week short break.

Learning The Fun Way

2007-03-30T13:35:00.000+08:00

I read with interest the article in today's The Straits Times on page H9 - "NTUC Childcare gives its syllabus a makeover".

All childcare centres under the NTUC umbrella will be having new curriculum from April 2007 which include:

Exciting experiments and 'hands-on' activities like setting up a restaurant, mixing drinks with different ingredients and playing cashier, just to name a few.
Observing things around them and making simple deductions.
Step-by-step methods and activities for teachers to use (as opposed to general outline of a topic).
Incorporating art into the English language.
The last 10 weeks of Kindergarten 2 will be spent getting the children ready to enter primary school.

I really applaud this move by NTUC Childcare. To keep abreast with the ever changing times, I sure the other childcare centres will also be upgrading their programmes to entice Singapore parents.

What is important is that these organizations must recognize that learning should be fun. At their age, they should be enjoying life and do what kids should be doing.

What is 100%?

2007-03-28T23:51:00.000+08:00

Singapore parents
Want to share with you a small truth to make LIFE 100%

If A B C D E F G H I J K L M N O P Q R S T U V W X Y Z
is equal to
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 26

Then

HARD WORK is
8+1+18+4+23+15+18+11 = 98%

KNOWLEDGE is
11+14+15+23+12+5+4+7+5 = 96%

LOVE is
12+15+22+5 = 54%

LUCK is
12+21+3+11 = 47%

Then what makes 100%???

MONEY- NO!!!
13+15+14+5+25 = 72%

LEADERSHIP - NO!!!
12+5+1+4+5+18+19+9+10+16 = 99%

Every problem has a solution,
only if we perhaps change our attitude

To go to the top, to that 100%
What we really need to go further . . . a bit more . . . is

ATTITUDE
1+20+20+9+20+21+4+5 = 100%

It is OUR ATTITUDE towards
Life and Work that make OUR LIFE 100%!!!

ATTITUDE IS EVERYTHING
Change your attitude . . . and you change your LIFE!!!

Now that you know the answer . . .
WHAT WILL YOU DO ABOUT IT?

Well, the least you can do is to share this message with those your care.

Cucumber Minced Meat Soup

2007-03-27T23:26:00.000+08:00

Goodness of Cucumber

The cool, crisp cucumber, which belongs to the family of courgettes. It was one of the first vegetables to be cultivated in the world. Although it has little nutritional value, its most remarkable quality is an exceptionally high water content - 96.4%, which makes it both refreshing and low in calories. It is a natural diuretic but not a particularly powerful one....

For beauty purpose, cucumber are also being used as ingredients for its cooling effect. One of the most effective ways to clear eye bags is to put one slice of cucumber on each eye and leave it for 15 minutes.

Now, I would like to share one recipe which is typically a Teochew dish - Cucumber Minced Meat Soup

Ingredients (serves 4 - 6):

1 medium to large cucumber

300 gm of minced meat

50 gm of soya beans

6 cups of water

Method:

De-skin the cucumber and cut them in 3 cm chunks
Scour out the seeds in the centre portion (see left picture above)
Marinate minced meat with 1 tsp of cornflour and 1 tsp of soy sauce
Stuff the minced meat into the cucumbers, ensuring that both sides are fully covered
Put soya beans to boil, lower heat and simmer for 15 minutes
Put in the stuffed cucumbers and boil until cucumber begins to turn soft

Singapore parents, this is a simple dish that even the children can do it with guidance. Let them try it out.

Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) - 2

2007-03-26T22:06:00.001+08:00

Hi Singapore parents

Day 2 session on 23/3/2007 started at 9 am and ended at around 5 pm. The following areas were covered:

Getting the results that you want - the magic of rapport
Eye accessing cues
Chunking up/down
The driving force - values and beliefs
Alignment of your goals, beliefs, values and behaviours

I like the portion on Eye Accessing Cues. By observing one's eye cues, you will be able to tell if he/she is:

Vc = Visual Constructed
Vr = Visual Remembered
Ac = Auditory Constructed
Ar = Auditory Remembered
K = Kinesthetic
Ad = Auditory Digital

Other tips shared by the trainer on Beliefs include:

What is the key belief that is limiting you?
What price have you paid for having this belief?
How does holding on to the belief benefit you?
Why must you change this belief?
Why this belief is not true?
What would be a new alternative belief to help you?
Why is this new belief TRUE?

At the end of the 2-day program, the trainer wished that all participants are able to:

Well, I must say the trainer did his best in getting us to understand the NLP theories in simple ways. Our journey towards success has just begun . . .

Thank you, Kheng Mong!

Delights and Woes of the Week 0712

2007-03-25T20:55:00.000+08:00

It has been a busy week with lots of action. First, the delights:

Glad to be with my mum again on Monday and Wednesday. We even made a trip to Chinatown on Wednesday and paid my uncle and aunt a visit.
On Tuesday afternoon, was at Bukit View Secondary School as facilitator to Sec 3 students. There were 39 pupils in the class but 5 were absent. The remaining 34 stayed throughout the activities from 2 - 6 pm. One of the games required them to squeeze into the boys' toilet. The 9 girls were sporting enough and did as told. They remarked that it was smelly though.
For Thursday and Friday, attended NPL workshop with 11 others. Trainer shared many tips with us and also got us into action with lots of activities. We even got to watch glimpses of the movie "CRASH".
On Friday evening, helped as facilitator at West Spring Secondary School. This is in preparation of the big event coming up on next Saturday.
Yesterday afternoon, was busy again doing usher duty at Toa Payoh. In the evening, helped a parent settled his payment for his child's learning programme. In the night, managed to get 2 deals from the same family for 2 boys, one P6 and one P4, to sign up for the relevant learning programmes.
This morning, had Reiki II reunion at Cairnhill Circle. Good to meet and share with those present on happenings since January 2007. In the afternoon, was at Great World City to settle air ticket payment for my eldest girl. She will be going to Europe in May 2007.

Since going to all these schools, really get to know Singapore better. Although a small island, there are still lots of places I have yet been to.

As for the woe, sad that my mother-in-law has been unwell. Her legs were giving her so much pain that she has not been sleeping well. Paid her a visit this evening and did some Reiki for her. Hopefully, she can sleep well tonight.

Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) - 1

2007-03-22T23:26:00.000+08:00

Hi Singapore parents

Want to know what is NLP? It is the art and science of personal excellence.

Today and tomorrow, 11 of us have the chance to learn some of the NLP techniques and apply them through activities.

Day 1 session started at 9 am this morning and ended at around 9 pm. The following areas were covered:

The Neuro aspects include our 5 senses such as:

Visual (see)
Auditory (hear)
Kinesthetic (feel)
Olfactory (smell)
Gustatory (taste)

The Linguistic aspects touch on language and other non-verbal communication systems through our perceptions.

For the programming part, it is how we organize our ideas and actions through the neuro and linguistic aspects to achieve our results. Isn't this interesting???

Below are the 6 NLP Guiding Principles To Success where the trainer elaborated with examples:

We already have all the resources we need or we can create them
There is no failure, only feedback
The Map is not the territory
The meaning of the communication is the response I get, regardless of my intention
If I am not getting what I want, I will change the way I go about doing it
Take 100% responsibility, no matter what happens

Other tips shared by the trainer include:

Ultimate success formula
Goals and outcomes
Modelling - strategies to success
Modelling physiology
Mental modelling
The secret to peak performance
Mastering your mind: how to run your brain (modalities and sub-modalities)

Of all the activities that we did, I like the negative experience best. I used to 'hate' one of my superior to the core. When I did Reiki previously, we were told to forgive our enemy which I did.

Tonight, when we were told to dispel negative thoughts, again, this person's name pops up. I thought I would give it a try again to see if I have fully forgiven her. And I did. Instead of the disgusting figure that I would have pictured, I saw a very different person. From head to toe, this 'enemy' don a totally new image, one that is cheerful and friendly.

I am now very sure I have forgiven her fully. The mention of her name no longer irks me. Isn't that great?

Well, will share more with you after I learn more things tomorrow.

MOF - My Izakaya

2007-03-20T22:35:00.000+08:00

Hi Singapore parents
Today, instead of sharing recipes with you, would like to introduce a Japanese restaurant to you. It offers dishes such as:

Chicken char-siew bento
Tri-color bento
Chicken char-siew ramen
Sansai udon
Sansai soba

The prices are reasonable and it is located at:
6 Raffles Boulevard
#02-138E
Marina Square
Singapore 039594

BTW, MOF stands for Ministry Of Food.

So, the next time you are at Marina Square and there is a craving for Japanese food, do drop by this outlet.

EMO kids

2007-03-19T22:32:00.000+08:00

Singapore parents, do you know this term "emo" kids? Well, I just learn it today from The Straits Times on H2. It stands for emotional. Emo teens apparently adopt the following fads:

They like to wear dark T-shirts, a little undersized or deliberately worn down to look old
Their choice of sneakers is Converse canvas shoes. On these sneakers, one can find words like "pain" scribbled in red ink or a drawing of a broken heart
They also like to don heavily lined eyes
Their hairs will be long fringed which cover half their face
They like to listen to angst-filled music from bands like Hawthorne Heights, Aiden, The Used, My Chemical Romance and Fall Out Boy
Some like to pen poems about suicide and dealth
Others opt to slash their wrists to "ease their pain"

Counsellors shared that there are more cases of girls attempting wrist cutting as opposed to boys. The age group is also getting younger and younger.

I agree with the author that while it is ok to follow the trend, one should not hurt oneself physically. It is very sad to know that our teens have such tendencies.

Parents, if your children are in their teens, do look out for any change in fashion, new interest in music mentioned above or other pecularities. If you do suspect something amiss, it is better to seek help early. Don't wait till tragic happens.

Delights and Woes of the Week 0711

2007-03-18T21:35:00.000+08:00

This week, most the delights came from the Book Fair at Bras Basah Complex. As in my updates of Book Fair Fiesta (1), (2) and (3), I got to meet all sorts of people, including tourists visiting Singapore. The best part is I managed to cheer many children with balloons and sweets.

In return, 4 families sign up their children for the programmes offered by MindChamps. Here, I sincerely wish these parents and their kids all the best in their new endeavours.

On Tuesday, my elder brother brought my mum down to town. They paid a visit to my booth at Bras Basah. Thereafter, we had lunch at Jalan Besar. It was good to see that mum had good appetite.

On Thursday night, the CPT Alumni meeting at Tung Ann Building at Cecil Street saw positive exchanges and sharing amongst my peers. Everyone benefited one way or another. Most importantly, we had fun with the games and enjoyed the 2 talks.

As for the woe, one parent was upset with me over some assessment arrangement. Need to do recovery in the coming week. Wish me luck!

Book Fair Fiesta (3)

2007-03-18T11:19:00.000+08:00

Today is the 10th and last day of the Bras Basah Complex Book Fair. Well, it has been quite humid during the last 3 days:

Remember the little boy who came back repeatedly for balloons? Well, he did not turn up again. Instead, a pair of Indian siblings have been coming. Since today is the last day, whoever request for a balloon will get it, while stocks last. We had fun making the various ballon designs - from sword, poodle, flower, parrot, hat and swan.

The other popular item is sweets. Not only do children want them, adults also take them. I just love to see the delight on the children's face when they get a balloon or a sweet. Some older ones were shy to take initially but after seeing the younger ones having fun, they also ask for it. We even have some old ladies asking for the balloons for their grandchildren.

Overall, the turnout is not bad. Many of colleagues managed to get leads for parents and their children to go for the complimentary workshops. We also took turns to patronize some of the stalls.

As for me, I tried out about half of the outlets at the foodcourt. The food there is not too bad but a little pricey though.

So much for the update. Bye for now.

Answer to Brain Teaser

2007-03-17T10:05:00.000+08:00

Well parents, if you have yet tried out the teaser with your children, here it is again.

CROSS + ROADS = DANGER
Given S = 3, find the other numbers. Each letter represent 1 digit between 1 - 9.

Please do attempt first before scrolling down for the answer.

And the answer is:
D = 1
O = 2
S = 3
E = 4
A = 5
R = 6
G = 7
N = 8
C = 9

If you have gotten it correct, BRAVO!

Useful tips to share

2007-03-16T22:29:00.000+08:00

Last night, we had our 1st CPT (Certified Professional Trainers) Alumni meeting after the formation of the committee. Although we had only 10 participants, all of us had fun.

Daya was the Emcee for the event. Besides getting all present to give a short description about themselves, he also shared 2 games with us. The 1st one was a word and number teaser:

CROSS + ROADS = DANGER
Given S = 3, find the other numbers. Each letter represent 1 digit between 1 - 9.
Try this out. Answer will be given tomorrow.

Then we had Henry Ng as the 1st speaker for the night. Before he started on his topic was on "How to Ace that interview", he shared a tip. If you need to "blank" out the screen of your notebook for a while when using Power Point, just press the "B" button. Simple enough.

Henry then went on to share pointers starting with "P" like preparation, process, post-mortem and . . .

Very useful tips indeed. This was followed by evaluation on eye/brain control,structure, energy, visual, question handling and instructional skills. Overall, he received positive feedback and areas for improvement.

Jessica also shared a tip on how to pronounce a particular word correctly. Just log on to www.m-w.com.

Next, we had the 2nd speaker and that was ME. I spoke on "Having POSITIVE attitude" - for details, please refer to my earlier blog dated 3 Dec 2006. I also did a demo on how to make a "poodle" balloon sculpture. My audience were impressed. At the end of my presentation, I gave it away. Upon further requests, I made another 3 more. Like Henry, I was being evaluated by my team mates. Generally, much improvement but still need to cut down on my non-words.

Finally, Daya wrapped the session with a Geography quiz. It's about knowing the country and capital city. We sure had to crack our heads to give the answers.

Singapore parents, do try out the 1st word and number teaser above. Answer will be given tomorrow.

Book Fair Fiesta (2)

2007-03-15T11:35:00.000+08:00

Today is the 7th day of the Bras Basah Complex Book Fair. Well, want to share with you folks on some interesting incidents over the past 2 days:

On Tuesday afternoon, around 1.40 pm, there was suddenly a huge crowd in front of our booth. My colleague was curious and followed the direction where all the eyes were watching. There, she saw a naked man. Of course, I joined in. Apparently, the naked man was doing some ritual praying. After every few steps, he paused and bent down to bow. There was a policeman next to him and he was following the clotheless guy closely. Shortly after this, another policeman came with a cloth to wrap up the attention-seeking man and led him away. I must say the Singapore police force sure is efficient for such "arrest".

Mr Lee, the man-in-charge of the book fair, arrived in time only to catch the policeman leading the man away. Someone had alerted him of the usual attraction so he came to take a look. I teased him that this is free publicity. He asked if we saw everything. When my colleague said she only the back of the man, he asked if we want to follow him and see the front. Of course, we had a good laugh and I remarked that it should be the same and nothing unusual.

Later in the evening, about 6.30 pm, it started to pour. We noted water seeping through the roof of the tents and decided we should pack up for the day. We put everything above the table stands, just in case water flowed through. To our surprise, the water just make its way else where and not out booth. Isn't the feng shui good???

On such book fairs, we would least expect repeated visitors. However, our booth having been getting the same customer over the last few days. It's a little boy about 8 years old whose parents have a shop upstairs on the 3rd level. He would diligently drop by and ask for balloon swords. Everyday, he gave different excuses. Yesterday, he came by twice saying his friend burst his balloon so he would like another one. We had to turn him down saying our stocks are running low.

I am sure we would be expecting this little visitor again today and the next few days. Would we continue to give the balloons to him??? Hmm . . . will update you again.

Going Bananas

2007-03-13T21:23:00.000+08:00

Do you know that you should never put bananas in the refrigerator???

Well, bananas contain three natural sugars - sucrose, fructose and glucose combined with fiber. A banana gives an instant, sustained and substantial boost of energy. Research has proven that just 2 bananas provide enough energy for a strenuous 90-minute workout. No wonder the banana is the number one fruit with the world's leading athletes.

But energy is not the only way a banana can help us keep fit. It can also help overcome or prevent a substantial number of illnesses and conditions, making it a must to add to our daily diet.

Depression:
According to a recent survey undertaken by MIND amongst people suffering from depression, many felt much better after eating a banana. This is because bananas contain tryptophan, a type of protein that the body converts into serotonin, known to make you relax, improve your mood and generally make you feel happier.

PMS:
Forget the pills - eat a banana. The vitamin B6 it contains regulates blood glucose levels that affects your mood.

Anemia:
High in iron, bananas can stimulate the production of hemoglobin in the blood and so helps in cases of anemia.

Blood Pressure:
This unique tropical fruit is extremely high in potassium yet low in salt, making it perfect to beat blood pressure. So much so, the US Food and Drug Administration has just allowed the banana industry to make official claims for the fruit's ability to reduce the risk of blood pressure and stroke.

Brain Power:
200 students at a Twickenham (Middlesex) school were helped through their exams this year by eating bananas at breakfast, break, and lunch in a bid to boost their brain power. Research has shown that the potassium-packed fruit can assist learning by making pupils more alert.

Constipation:
High in fiber, including bananas in the diet can help restore normal bowel action, helping to overcome the problem without resorting to laxatives.

Hangovers:
One of the quickest ways of curing a hangover is to make a banana milkshake, sweetened with honey. The banana calms the stomach and with the help of honey, builds up depleted blood sugar levels, while the milk soothes and re-hydrates your system.

Heartburn:
Bananas have a natural antacid effect in the body, so if you suffer from heartburn, try eating a banana for soothing relief.

Morning Sickness:
Snacking on bananas between meals helps to keep blood sugar levels up and avoid morning sickness.

Mosquito bites:
Before reaching for the insect bite cream, try rubbing the affected area with the inside of a banana skin. Many people find it amazingly successful at reducing swelling and irritation.

Nerves:
Bananas are high in B vitamins that help calm the nervous system.

Now back to question why??? Because the nutrients will be lost. So Singapore parents, do include fresh bananas in your diet for your children and yourselves too.

Book Fair Fiesta (1)

2007-03-12T21:25:00.000+08:00

Today is the 4th day of the Bras Basah Complex Book Fair. Usually, I am the consumer, i.e one at the receiving end. For the past 4 days, it had been an entirely different experience, manning the booth and being at the giving end.

First, we get to meet all sorts of people, not just Singaporeans but also foreigners:

Old folks just walking around to pass time;
Grandparent(s) with their grandchild(ren) while their parents are at work;
Parents with their children scouting for books and other stuff;
Adults working nearby dropping by during lunch and after work;
Tourists who somehow found their way there for sale items;
Others who are book lovers and are there to catch good bargains.

And guess what, unless they are interested in what we have to offer, they will quickly brush us off and rush off. Nonetheless, I am glad that my team maintained good spirit and always don a smile on their face. The sculpture balloons are popular with kids. Some even came back for more. One Japanese lady even wanted to learn and ask that I teach her. Of course, I gladly did so.

Then, we were also being asked interesting questions by passers-by:

May I know where is the toilet?
Do you know where is the post office?
Where is UOB?
Do you know which book store sell a particular series of Chinese books?
Can you tell me where is the National Library?
Can you tell me how to go to Beach Road?
Do you know where I can get human skeleton model?
Do I make payment here? (Our booth happens to be next to Popular stalls)

I am sure the remaining 6 days will be equally exciting. Will keep you people posted. . .

Delights and Woes of the Week 0710

2007-03-11T21:45:00.000+08:00

This has been an exciting week for me. First, the delights:

Attended parenting workshop on 6/3 and 7/3. Sure got quite a number of tips from the speaker. One of it is the LOVE language which I found pretty useful and had it in my blog on 7/3 - FAMILY LOVE AFFAIR.
Gave talks to Pri 5 and Pri 6 students at Huamin Pri School on 6/3 and 8/3 respectively. The topic was on Perseverance to Success. Was glad to have taught them goal setting and some learning tips.
On Wednesday morning (9/3), went to Methodist Girls' Primary and shared with Class 4.2 on the 6 elements of fundamental art. The girls sure were a bunch of inquisitive ones, asking a lot of questions. It also makes me feel young again.
Got to participate in the Bras Basah Complex Book Fair roadshow. On the first day (9/3), managed to get one family to attend the complimentary workshop today. And guess what, they sign up their eldest boy (primary 3) for the learning technique programme.
Yesterday, held my monthly Reiki session at home in the afternoon. Good to see my Reiki kakis again.
Had fun making sculpture balloons and meeting all sorts of people at the book fair. Next to our booth, the stall was playing some Chinese oldies and I found it entertaining.

Now for the woe - sad that I could not keep my mum company during the book fair period. Luckily, the March holidays have started and my other siblings are helping out.

Singapore parents, the Bras Basah book fair is on until 18/3/2007. You have yet any plans, do bring your children down for some fun.

Bras Basah Complex Book Fair

2007-03-10T21:52:00.000+08:00

Today is the first day of the March school holidays.

Singapore parents, if you and your kids love books, do go down to Bras Basah Complex. It started its English & Chinese Book Fair cum Bonsai Fair yesterday. It will last all the way until 18 Mar 2007.

Besides assessment books, there are lots of other items you can pick up. Give yourself and your children a break. Make it a family outing and have fun.

I am manning a booth in front of Popular book stalls. If you do make a trip there, can come and look for me.

Cheers and have a nice weekend.

Process of Successful Studying

2007-03-08T21:46:00.000+08:00

This afternoon, I was at Huamin Primary School to share with P6 students on Perseverance for Success. The following processes were discussed:

Setting of clear goals
Planning and scheduling
Taking consistent action
Mind mapping

On goal setting, got the students to:

Write down what each wanted specifically, especially prelim and final PSLE results
List down the benefits and reasons for achieving the goal(s) - basically it's the choice of secondary school that the student aims to go to
Write down what course of action(s) to take to achieve the goal(s) - basically recognizing their weakness(es) and drawing up a time-table to follow
Set a deadline and periodically review the goal

On planning and scheduling, explained to the pupils that when drawing the time-table, it is important to be specific, e.g. indicate the amount of time allocated for each task. Quite a number of them shared that they would cut down on TV watching and computer games.

On action taking, impressed upon them that "Action speaks louder than words". After setting the goal and drawing the time-table, results will only be realized if they take action. Also quoted examples of negative thoughts like "I don't know", "I am lousy" and urged them to stop using this phrases. Instead, use "Let me think about it" and "If others can, so can I". When playing the "Nose-Ear" game which stimulates both sides of the brain, also got the teacher to join us. They sure had fun.

On mind mapping, taught them how to use keywords, colours and pictures to design their own mind maps. Showed them some examples on hand.

Though it was a short 2 hours, I sincerely hoped I did boost their moral a little and wish them all the best on their exam taking end of the year.

Singapore parents, if you have Pri 6 or Sec 4 children, do encourage them to set goals and be focused.

Family Love Affair

2007-03-07T23:30:00.000+08:00

The common saying is "Charity begins at home." So is LOVE! I attended a parenting talk last night and tonight. The speaker shared about the love language. It leaves me much WRAPS for thought:

Words of affirmation or appreciation
More often than not, we take things for granted. When was the last time you say "Thank You" to your child for a task that he/she did willingly? Or give him/her a pat when he/she did well in school work/project? If we could nag less or not nag at all and say "Thank You" or give them a pat the next time round, see what happens?

Reciprocation
Love is a two-sided affair. When one is giving all the time and the other does not respond, it just isn't going to work. Just as it takes both hands to clap, it's the same with love. This applies to all generations. How we treat our parents, our children will see and mirror. So if you want your children to treat you well, do the same for your old folks.

Action
Yes, action speak louder than words. By this I mean, physical touch. When our children were young, we hug and kiss them a lot. When they gradually gets older, somehow, all the hugs and kisses also gradually reduce. This is so sad. I am glad that my youngest girl (aged 16) still bids me good night with a kiss. I still hold my son's hand (aged 20) when we go out and I am glad he allows it. These may be little things but can mean a lot.

Presents
Nothing beats getting gifts on birthdays, anniversaries and special occasions. It does not have to be of high value. I always treasure hand-made ones. So far, collections from my children include:

Hand-made cards with 'love' messages
A cushion with all their names hand-written on it
A framed puzzle with missing pieces but with messages on the empty spaces
Costume jewelry (some are hand-made by my eldest daughter herself)
Photo frames with pictures that tell a story
Clothings

Service
Last but not least, is doing something for your loved ones, like:

Cooking a meal for the family
Helping in household chores
Sewing and mending clothes
Planning an outing or surprise activity

Well, Singapore parents, hope the above WRAPS up the family love affair.

Sweet Potato Porridge

2007-03-06T10:19:00.000+08:00

Goodness of Sweet Potatoes

Research has found that sweet potatoes may be crucial in combating malnutrition and blindness in Africa. They are often overlooked by cooks, when they are among the most nutritious vegetables from nature's bounty:

The bright orange ones are high in vitamin A (beta carotene).
Besides vitamin A, a medium-baked sweet potato also contains vitamin C, some vitamin B including folic acid, vitamin E. magnesium and calcium.
Although sweet in nature, sweet potatoes are not any higher in calories than while potatoes.

In spite of its name, sweet potatoes are actually storage roots, like carrots while potatoes are storage stems. They come in variety of flesh colours and skin covers - from orange or red skins and flesh of pale yellow to orange or even purple.

When choosing sweet potatoes, select one without cracks, black spots and wrinkles. Exclude the soft ones too. Sweet potatoes can be cooked in virtually any way imaginable, be it boiling, baking, steaming, frying or micro-waving.

Now, I would like to share one traditional recipe eaten during the Japanese occupation - SWEET POTATO PORRIDGE

Ingredients (serves 4 - 6):

2 medium sweet potatoes (orange flesh)
2 cups of rice
6 cups of water

Method:

Dice sweet potatoes into 5 cm chunks
After washing the rice, add sweet potatoes and water into rice cooker and set to cook
Best served with light dishes such as salted egg, pickles, century egg and the like . . .

Well, Singapore parents, after more than 2 weeks of good food during Lunar New Year, do give this simple dish a try. My children have enjoyed it and I am sure yours too.

Delights and Woes of the Week 0709

2007-03-04T20:26:00.000+08:00

It's another Sunday and today is the last (or 15th) day of Lunar New Year. Well, the delights for this week are:

On Monday, brought my mum for buffet lunch at The Straits Cafe, Rendevous Hotel. Yusheng included.
On Tuesday evening, attended a preview on Neuro-Linguistic Programme. Good to attend the course if I have the time.
On Wednesday, was at mum's place again. She finally agreed to take in a maid. Will arrange with agent to have the bio-data for selection.
On Thursday morning, went for complimentary massage at Body Wellness. This is one good thing when you have multiple credit cards with such promotions.
On Friday afternoon, attended the presenter audition at MindChamps. It was good experience.
On Saturday evening, helped my partner for a talk at De La Salle Primary School on How to maximize your child's EQ. The turnout was quite good with more than 50 parents.
This evening, had dinner with my husband, eldest and youngest girls. We ordered 4 dishes, one of which is Yusheng. After all the well-wishes, we dug in. Too bad, my son and 2nd daughter had to miss this moment.

For the woes:

My mum's giddy spells came back on Thursday and Friday and she is still afraid to be alone.
The Cedar school camp at Labrador was shortened on Friday as more than 50 of the students had diarrhea. I was scheduled to join them on Saturday as parent volunteer but was informed to skip it because of the diarrhea breakout.
Yet to get prospects to sign up for the children's programme. Must really put in more effort.

Singapore parents, hope you had a wonderful time during this Lunar New Year.

Essence of Time

2007-03-03T20:12:00.000+08:00

Whether you are male or female, rich or poor, young or old, all of us have one thing in common - TIME.

When you say you do not have time, consider the following:

To realize the value of one year, ask a student who failed a grade.
To realize the value of one month, ask a mother who gave birth to a premature baby.
To realize the value of one week, ask the editor of a weekly newspaper.
To realize the value of one day, ask a daily-wage labourer with several children's mouths to feed.
To realize the value of one hour, as the lovers who are waiting to meet.
To realize the value of one minute, ask a person who missed the train.
To realize the value of one second, as a person who just avoided an accident.
To realize the value of one millisecond, ask a person who won a silver medal at the Olympics.

Parents, life in Singapore may be hectic but you can still find time to what you like if you want to. So, the next time you decide to do something, just do it. Else, once the precious moment is gone, there is no re-winding back.

Presentation Audition

2007-03-02T23:43:00.000+08:00

Yes. I attended the audition to be a presenter with MindChamps this afternoon. We were given the script about 10 days ago. Despite going through it quite a number of times, remembering it word for word was really a challenge.

As there were 30 of us, each of us were given about 5 minutes to do only the Introduction. The closing part was skipped. We were told to be there 15 minutes before our time slot. My scheduled time was 5.05 pm. As it was raining quite heavily, I arrived around 5 pm. Luckily, there was delay and I still had some time to over the script again.

As the minutes turn into seconds, it was finally my turn to go in. I did what I always tell my children, "Take 3 deep breaths before you start." Well, not too bad on the whole. I only paused for a while after 2 minutes, did a bit of re-collection and carried on. I think my Certified Professional Training did help.

The criteria for the presentation are:

Ability to create interest - 30%
Flow of presentation - 20%
Presenter's presence - 20%
Diction - 15%
Personal attire & appearance - 15%

Parents, this is a totally new experience for me. I look forward to more such opportunities. Of the 30 of us, only 5 will be selected and given more training. Wish me luck . . .

Arithmetic

2007-03-01T17:22:00.000+08:00

Came across this interesting poem by Carl Sandburg.

Arithmetic is where numbers fly like pigeons in and out of your head
Arithmetic tells you how many you lose or win if you know how many you had before you lost or won
Arithmetic is seven eleven all good children go to heaven
- or five six bundle of sticks
Arithmetic is numbers you squeeze from your head to your hand to your pencil to your paper till you get the right answer . . .

If you have two animal crackers, one good and one bad, and you eat one and a striped zebra how many animal crakers willyou have if somebody offers you five six seven and you say No no no and you say Nay nay nay and you say Nix nix nix?

If you ask your mother for one fried egg for breakfast and she gives you two fried eggs and you eat both of them, who is better in arithmetic, you or your mother?

Well, Singapore parents, hope you like the above extract and share them with your children. Also, do encourage them to write poems, no matter how simple, is a way of their expression.

Monthly Reflections 0702

2007-02-28T23:11:00.000+08:00

This is the shortest month of the year. Yes, it’s the end of February 2007.

So far, my achievements are:

For the whole month, I went brisk walking with my husband only once. Still watching his diet and getting him to exercise more though.
Had more outings with Lawrence - did massage/facial, went for buffet; bought table lamps for the rooms; went to IKEA to look for sofa covers.
For spring-cleaning and house-keeping, finally found the ant hive in one of the kitchen cabinets and got rid of it.
Was at my mum’s place twice a week and took her out at times. On one occasion, had buffet with her. We sure had a good time. Glad to see that she is much better now.
Met quite a few writers during the gathering at the Singapore Society of Writers. Good to have them share their experience on writing and publishing their books.
Went down to 2 schools - one primary and one secondary. Shared with them on the 6 basic elements of Art Fundamentals.
Was involved in a road show at Kovan Bus Interchange. Managed to get 2 prospects to go for complimentary workshop for children's development programme.
Had lunch with my mother-in-law before Chinese New Year. My son is the only paternal grandson and she is always happy to see him.
Hosted a Reiki session with 3 other classmates on the 2nd Saturday. Intend to make this a monthly affair. In total, have Reiki-ed more than 50 people this month.
Got my 2 younger girls to share their daily delights and woes.
Finally hit 100 posts on 26/02/2007 for my "parent-joy" blog.

Task to be done in Mar 2007:

Do more brisk walking with my husband. Target to bring 1 kg of down every month until he hits 65 kg.

Complete filing of documents.

Continue to make new friends with success stories to share.

Go for one massage and one facial for maintenance of well-being.

Continue to Reiki those in need, especially family members.

Target to enroll 5 students for self-improvement courses that will benefit them in the long term.

Start gathering materials on parenting tips.

Switch to wordpress for my new website.

Settle application of maid for my mum as a companion and help with household chores.

Parents, hope your month has been a joyful one with Lunar New Year celebrations.

Green Tea Recipes

2007-02-27T23:30:00.000+08:00

GREEN TEA BUTTERED PRAWNS

Ingredients:

200g of raw tiger prawns
1 green tea bag
15 gm salted butter

Pickle (optional):

1 radish (diced)

1 cucumber (diced)

1 carrot (diced)

2 tbsp lime juice (to be mixed with above vegetables)

Method:

Devein the prawns
In a frying pan, steep the green tea bag in 250 ml of hot water for 5 minutes
Remove tea bag and bring water to boil
Add prawns and cook for 3 minutes
Drain liquid, leaving one tbsp
Add the salted butter and fry prawns until they sizzle
Serve with lime juice pickle, if desired

GREEN TEA MANGO CHILL

Ingredients:

300 ml double cream
5 green tea bags

75 g icing sugar
2 mangoes (cut into slivers)

Sweet biscuits (optional)

Method:

In a saucepan, warm 300 ml of double cream and 5 green tea bags, until just below boiling
Remove from heat and cool in fridge for ½ hour
Discard tea bags
Whip cream and the icing sugar until it holds soft peaks, then chill
Layer cut mangoes and cream in dishes
Serve with sweet biscuits, if desired

Goodness of Green Tea

Research has found that green tea has very powerful anti-oxidants and aids in the following medical conditions:

cancer
rheumatoid arthritis
high cholesterol levels
cardiovascular disease
infection
impaired immune function

Other Benefits

New evidence is emerging that green tea can even help dieters. It can even help prevent tooth decay! Just as its bacteria-destroying abilities can help prevent food poisoning, it can also kill the bacteria that cause dental plaque. Meanwhile, skin preparations containing green tea - from deodorants to creams - are starting to appear on the market.

Negative Effect

So far, the only negative side effect reported from drinking green tea is insomnia arising from caffeine. However, green tea contains less caffeine than coffee. There are approximately 30 to 60 mg of caffeine in 6 - 8 oz of tea, compared to over 100 mg in 8 oz of coffee.

Good Luck Tips

2007-02-26T22:18:00.000+08:00

The following are extracts from the Anthony Robbins organisation.

Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.
Marry a man/woman you love to talk to. As you get older, their conversational skills will be as important as any other.
Do not believe all you hear, spend all you have or sleep all you want.
When you say, "I love you," mean it.
When you say, "I'm sorry," look the person in the eye.
Be engaged at least six months before you get married.
Believe in love at first sight.
Never laugh at anyone's dream. People who do not have dreams do not have much.
Love deeply and passionately. You might get hurt but it's the only way to live life completely.
In disagreements, fight fairly. No name calling.
Do not judge people by their relatives.
Talk slowly but think quickly.
When someone asks you a question you do not want to answer, smile and ask, "Why do you want to know?"
Remember that great love and great achievements involve great risk.
Say "bless you" when you hear someone sneeze.
When you lose, do not lose the lesson
Remember the three R's: Respect for self; Respect for others; and Responsibility for all your actions.
Do not let a little dispute injure a great friendship.
When you realize you have made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.
Smile when picking up the phone. The caller will hear it in your voice.
Spend some time alone.

Singapore parents, if you find the above tips useful, do practise them and get good luck. Also, pass them along and let others share the luck too.

A true friend is someone who reaches for your hand and touches your heart.

Delights and Woes of the Week 0708

2007-02-25T20:51:00.000+08:00

This is the 8th week into 2007 and today is the 8th day of Lunar New Year. As usual, I will share the delights first:

On Monday, kept my mum company, just staying at her house. We chatted a lot though.
On Tuesday, stayed home the whole day, just relaxing. No visiting.
On Wednesday morning, collected medical report for my husband and send in for insurance premium waiver. Thereafter, had buffet with my husband and eldest girl at Le Meridien. Presently, they are promoting local dishes.
On late Thursday morning, went for massage. It's a once a month enjoyment that I indulge on myself.
Finally found the ant nest in the kitchen on Friday afternoon. At one of the cabinets. With my husband's help, cleared the whole mass. Of course, threw out some more unused stuff.
On Saturday morning, attended 2 meetings at Cedar Girls Secondary School. Volunteered for the Rainbow group and Parent Guardian Programme.
This morning, finished Feb issue of Reader's Digest.

Now for the woes:

My 2nd sister quarrelled with her husband and this had upset my mum.
Need to get carpenter to fix up the cabinet with the ant nest.
Had 2 prospects this week but failed to get them to sign up for the children's programme. Must try harder.

Singapore parents, if you have yet had Yu-Sheng, there is one more week to go.

Sex Matters

2007-02-23T17:33:00.000+08:00

Under the Home section (H3) of The Straits Times today, there was an article on "Married S'poreans prefer condoms". From a study by the National University of Singapore (NUS), it was found that the condom is the most popular form of contraception among married Singaporeans. The findings reveal that:

Husbands are more agreeable to put on condoms
Women are having more say on fertility decisions
The use of the rubber has more than doubled over the last 30 years
Of the 900 married couples interviewed, 39% of them said they use condoms (in 1973, it was only 17%)
The contraceptive pill, on the other hand, plunged in popularity - from 21.7% to 7%
Next in popularity is withdrawal (21%)
This is followed by the rhythm (11%)

Overall, the reliance on such "low-tech" methods implies there is good communication and respect in marriages. The presumption is couples do discuss on the choice of contraception and this is good.

Just last night, my 2 younger girls were also talking about fertility period (biology class topic) and some sex matters. Intrauterine Contraceptive Device (IUCD) and sterilization were also discussed. It was a very casual interaction. We briefly discussed how each contraception works. They asked if I used any of those and I shared with them. After the birth of my 4th and last child, I opted for ligation.

Parents, should your children approach you on this subject matter, just be natural and deal with it like you are just having a discussion.

The Art of Marriage

2007-02-22T20:30:00.000+08:00

While clearing some of my old stuff, I came across this poster that I bought 25 years ago. On it is this beautiful poem on The Art of Marriage:

It is never being too old to hold hands.
It is remembering to say "I love you" at least once each day.
It is never going to sleep angry.
It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives.
It is standing together facing the world.
It is forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole family.
It is speaking words of appreciation and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways.
It is having the capacity to forgive and forget.
It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow.
It is a common search for the good and the beautiful.
It is not only marrying the right person -
It is being right partner.

Every time I read this poem, it gives me the sense of peace within me. Now that the poster is tattered and torn, I am going to discard it. Nonetheless, I will always treasure the message it implies, especially the last sentence of being the right partner.

Having been married for 25 years and being parents of 4 children, we have always cherished each other's companionship. Although we do not say "I love you" every day, in our hearts, we do. As Singapore is in the Asian region, people in this part of the world are rather conservative and we like to keep it that way.

Bonding by reading, story-telling and . . .

2007-02-21T20:46:00.000+08:00

In today's mindyourbody in The Straits Times, I read with interest the article on "Bonding by reading".

I fully agree with Md Hartiny that bonding continued from the moment the baby is borned. I also like her idea of reading not confining to just books - reading anything and everything, like television sub-titles, road signs and even instruction manuals.

Well, I would like to add that story-telling and singing are also good for bonding. I remembered telling my children the same old story every night and they still ask for the same story on the next night. That's because, I will have high and low pitches when I relate different roles in the story. One example is the The Three Bears. I will have a low pitch voice when I imitate Papa Bear, medium pitch for Mama Bear and high pitch for Baby Bear. The children just loved it.

When they were babies, I used to sing lullabies to them. When they were older, I changed the lyrics to suite the family story. This really sparked their creativity and they also start putting their own words to change the lyrics too.

For story-telling, all libraries do have these sessions on specific days and for different age groups. Singapore parents, do check out the schedules and make an effort to bring your children there. While they enjoy their delights, you can also have a break to pick some groceries or do some chores and fetch them later.

At different age, children have different needs. After certain age, they will not want to go anymore. So wait no more.

Recipes with Bird's Nest (2)

2007-02-20T13:36:00.000+08:00

Hi parents
If you still have bird's nest and still wondering what to do with them, here's another 2 recipes to consider:

Stew Duck with Bird's Nest Soup

Ingredients:

15 gm duck's meat
15 gm bird's nest
15 gm ham

Method (serves 4 - 6 persons):

Soak bird's nest in warm water for 1 hour
Drain and cook in boiling water for 5 minutes
Drain and set aside
Wash duck and book in boiling water for 6 - 8 minutes
Remove and rinse in cold water
Steam these prawn balls for 10 minutes
Place duck, bird's nest, ham and 3.5 cups of water in pot
Steam for 4 hours
Salt to taste before serving

Steamed Egg Custard with Bird's Nest Soup

Ingredients:

20 gm bird's nest
2 cups of superior soup stock
50 gm pea shoots

Custard:

2 egg whites
2 tbsp shredded cooked ham
2 tsp wine
1/2 tbsp sesame oil
1/8 tsp white pepper

Sauce:

3/4 cup stock
1/2 tbsp wine
1/4 tsp salt
1/8 tsp pepper
1 1/2 tbsp corn flour

Method (serves 4 - 6 persons):

Soak bird's next in hot water to soften
Simmer in 2 cups of stock for 2 hours
Combine custard ingredients and beat lightly
Steam the custard until it is set
Blanch pea shoots in boiling water until tender-crisp, then drain and set aside
Place custard in centre of a deep serving platter and surround with pea shoots
Bring sauce ingredients to a boil and cook until thickened
Place bird's nest on top of custard and pour sauce over

Lunar New Year lasts for 15 days. Today is only the 3rd day so Singapore parents, you still have time to plan ahead if you want to try the above recipes.

Delights and Woes of the Week 0707

2007-02-18T21:48:00.000+08:00

This is the 7th week into 2007 and today is the 1st day of Lunar New Year. Being a positive person, naturally, I have more delights and these are:

Making a trip to the market with mum. It sure reminisced old times.
Continue to share recipes to those who read my blog. This week, 2 dishes on using bird's nest.
Managed to register domain name "JUNEPARENTING.COM" with my sifu's guidance.
Had a belated Valentine's celebration with my husband on 15/2. He had a body massage while I did a facial. Thereafter, we had buffet lunch at Oscar's Cafe at Conrad Hotel.
Got some spring cleaning done to get ready for the coming Lunar New Year, with the help of my youngest girl. She sure is a darling.
Prepare dishes for reunion dinner for my family. We had steamboat and barbeque.
The 6 of us took turns to play mahjong from 9 pm to midnight.
Paid a visit to my mum's place today as the kids have not seen her for quite a while.

As for the woes, I am sad to note that there are a lot of 'sick' people around me. My Reiki list just keeps getting longer.

Singapore parents, here's wishing you and your family a nice and long weekend. Do find time to relax.

Dealing with Constipation

2007-02-16T22:17:00.000+08:00

Of late, while visiting my mum, she shared that she has constipation. When I ask around, I found that a lot of people also have this problem. So what is constipation, what are the causes and how to go about treating it ? ? ?

What is constipation?

To different people, it means different things. Basically, it refers to infrequent bowel movements. However, some will interpret it as a decrease in the amount of stool. Others describe it as difficulty in passing motion or a sense of incomplete evacuation. When this happens, they usually seek medication to help pass motion.

Ideally, one should clear his/her bowels after every meal. For some peope, it can vary from three times a day to three times a week while some may go a week or more without experiencing discomfort or harmful effects. Bowel habits are affected by diet. The average Singaporean diet includes 12 to 20 grams of fibre per day. This is below the recommended 25 to 30 grams of fibre.

About 80% of people suffer from constipation at some time during their lives. While brief periods of constipation are normal, it is advisible to seek help when the situation prolongs. The general assumption if that if motion is not passed out, it will result in poisons in the body. This can lead to overuse and abuse of laxatives.

What causes constipation?

Many factors may cause constipation. This include inadequate fibre and water intake, a sedentary lifestyle, and environmental changes. It may be aggravated by travel, pregnancy or change in diet. For some people, repeatedly ignoring the urge to pass motion may result in constipation.

More serious causes of constipation include growths or areas of narrowing in the colon. Hence, it is wise to seek the advice of a doctor when constipation persists. Constipation can also be due to nervous or endocrine disorders or diseases like thyroid, multiple sclerosis, Parkinson's disease, stroke and spinal cord injuries.

Treatment for constipation

Below are some tips for treatment of constipation:

Eat well balanced, regularly scheduled meals to promote normal bowel function.
To ensure roughage, eat foods that are high in fibre such as bran, shredded wheat, whole grain breads and certain fruits and vegetables. The recommended fibre intake is 25 to 30 grams per day for proper bowel function.
With high fibre diet, this will also help lower cholesterol levels, prevent symptomatic hemorrhoids and reduce the risk of developing colon polyps and caner.
Ensure that you drink enough fluids to help keep the stools soft. Try to drink at least 8 to 10 glasses of liquid each day in the form of juice, milk, coffee, tea, soup, water or other fluids.
An increase in activity such as exercise will also help the bowel move.
Alternatively, fibre supplements may be taken as these are not harmful to the body.
While laxatives stimulate the colon to work more rapidly, prolonged usage may stretch and weaken the colon. Hence, it is advisible to avoid laxative unless recommended and monitored by doctors.
A change in lifestyle may also help. Having a specific time each day to have a bowel movement may be helpful. In some cases, bio-feedback may help to retrain poorly functioning anal sphincter muscles.
Only in rare circumstances are surgical procedures necessary to treat constipation. Your doctor can discuss these options with you in greater detail to determine the best treatment for you.
Last but not least, try Reiki. After learning this technique, I now have more frequent bowel clearance.

Metaphorically, the intestines represent garbage that are to be disposed. Parents, if you still have a lot of cluttered items, why not take this opportunity to spring-clean them. Who knows, your bowels may be smoothier. . .

Tips to Healthy Foot Care

2007-02-15T22:49:00.000+08:00

With Chinese New Year round the corner, many shopping malls in Singapore offer a good variety of makes and brands. While new shoes may look pretty and trendy, old ones are usually more comfortable. Get new ones if you want but here are some things to take note:

Select shoes that conform to the shape of your feet
The toe area should be roomy
Heel height should be low if you need to stand or walk for long hours
The front portion should be square or round to suit the shape of your feet
Foot size changes as one ages so it is always good to try on the spot
Due to weight gain or loss, one foot may be bigger than the other so choose the size that fit the larger one
For sneakers, replace them after running more than 600 - 800 km or after doing 300 hours of aerobic activities
Avoid tight shoes and those with stiff backs

Other pointers on foot care include:

Cutting toe nails across in a straight line to avoid ingrown toe nails
Standing for long hours without shoes may cause fallen arches
To avoid planter warts, wear flip-flops instead of walking barefoot
To avoid tendon inflammation, it is good to warm up and stretch before and after work-outs

Parents, hope you find the above tips useful and happy shopping for your kids and yourself. For more information on foot care and treatments, you may log on to www.sgfootcare.com.

Happy Valentine

2007-02-14T22:50:00.000+08:00

Today is Valentine's Day indeed. I was at my mum's place today and she asked if I celebrate this special day with my husband. I told her we used to even after the kids came along. So far, all the celebrations were in Singapore. We either go for a movie and have dinner together, just the 2 of us.

After my husband's stroke 3 years ago, we somehow stopped. He was never the romantic type but I know he appreciates what I have done for him.

To me, every day is Valentine's Day as long as our love ones are healthy and happy. Parents, I am sure you will agree with me on this.

Recipes with Bird's Nest (1)

2007-02-13T11:33:00.000+08:00

Lunar New Year is a big event for all ethnic groups in Singapore. Here's 2 recipes for parents to try out for the reunion dinner:

Bird's Nest Twin Prawn Delight

Ingredients:

20 gm bird's nest
200 gm shelled prawn meat
200 gm pork or chicken
Oil for deep-frying

Seasonings:

1/2 tsp sesame oil
1/4 tsp white pepper
1 tbsp soy sauce
1 cup corn flour

Method (serves 4 – 6 persons):

Soak bird's nest in warm water for 1 hour
Slow-cook in coup stock for 1.5 hours
Combine prawn, pork or chicken and seasoning into blender and blend to a paste
Split the paste into 2 portions
For the 1st portion, form into small balls and coat in bird's nest, gently patting the bird's next into the mixture
Steam these prawn balls for 10 minutes
For remaining prawn paste, again form into small balls and coat with corn flour
Heat cooking oil in a wok over medium-high heat
Deep-fry for 5 minutes or until golden brown

Bird's nest with Quail/Chicken Soup

Ingredients:

15 gm bird's nest
80 gm small yam
2 egg whites
2 quails or 100 gms chicken meat

Sauce:

1cup superior stock
1/2 cup corn flour
1/2 cup water

Seasoning 1:

3 slices ginger
1 tbsp wine
4 cups water
1/2 tbsp cooking oil

Seasoning 2:

4 cups superior stock
1/2 tbsp wine
dash of sesame oil
pinch of white pepper
1/2 tsp sugar
pinch of salt

Method (serves 4 – 6 persons):

Soak bird's next in hot water for 4 hours with lid on
Drain and combine with seasoning 1
Boil for 5 - 8 minutes and drain
If using quail - steam for 15 minutes, remove meat when cool and mince
If using chicken, just steam for 10 minutes, mince when meat is cool
Slice and steam yam until soft, then mash
Place yam, quail or chicken into blender with the sauce and grind to fine paste
Place paste on plate and steam for 0.5 hour
Finally, put paste, bird's nest and Seasoning 2 into pot and steam for 1 hour

As this soup requires longer cooking time, it would be good to prepare the bird's nest one day in advance. Happy bird nesting . . .

To market with Mama

2007-02-12T23:02:00.000+08:00

The last time I went to market with my mum was a long long time ago. In fact, should be before I got married. Now that she is better, we intend to go more places. So, this morning, we make a trip to the market.

Now a parent with 4 kids myself, I finally found time to be with my own mum again. It was like going back to old times. Of course, people have changed and so have the stalls and nearby shops.

Along the way, we met several people. First was a neighbour who had quite a bundle on her hands. She was on her way home with some New Year goodies. Next was an old acquaintance that mum had not seen for a long time. She is also in her 70s but looking just great. We exchanged some updates and proceeded to walk around. We met some more people whom mum just said hello and we moved on. As it was already late morning, most of the stalls at the market were already closed.

As we strolled along, we 'discovered' some new stalls and shops. Mum was glad to have found her favourite fish-ball seller at one of the coffee shops. For some of the shop outlets, we also found that the owners have changed hands. In Singapore, shop-keepers are finding it hard to compete with the bigger players with many malls springing up.

As noon time drew near, we settled for a stall at the market that sells Teochew porridge with ready cooked food. We ordered 2 bowls of porridge, a plate of cabbage, sardine and some pig trotters. It really was like going back to old times. I do miss the morning breakfast that dad prepared for us.

Mama, we should do this more often. When I grow old, hope my children will still go to market with me!

Delights and Woes of the Week 0706

2007-02-11T21:26:00.000+08:00

It has been an eventful week. I am delighted that I:

accompanied mum to Chinatown on Monday. She finally got her pair of shoes.
was able to share another recipe with friends who read my blog.
was elected Treasurer for the CPT Alumni. Looking forward for more events coming up.
shared art aspect on elements of design with Class 1/4 at Pasir Ris Secondary School on Friday morning.
had a body massage at Subtle Senses at Singapore Mosque Street while Yulin (my eldest girl) had her facial done.
learned about another art aspect on Saturday morning - photojournalism. Sure would like to share this with more children.
hosted Reiki session at my place on Saturday afternoon. 4 of us took turns to 'roast' each other.
had lunch with my mother-in-law this afternoon. Have not seen her for quite a while. Also did some Reiki for her leg pains.

Well, for the woes, I have yet to:

convert my blog using Wordpress
complete my filing of bills and documents
do more spring cleaning to get ready for the Lunar New Year

Must really set a time frame to finish above tasks.

Parents, hope you done your spring cleaning and are ready for this coming festival.

Getting Good Results

2007-02-09T22:22:00.000+08:00

Today is the release of GCE 'O' level results in Singapore. My youngest girl, Yusin, scored an 'A1' for her Express Chinese. My other 3 elder children had also done well in their 2nd language previously.

Both my husband and I are really proud of them. As parents, we have always avoid stressing our kids. Instead, to strike a balance between study and play, we encourage them to take up a sports or join a uniform group.

At home, I let them study at their own pace. When they are in doubt, they do check with me. For questions that need further probing, either their siblings help out or they will check with their friends.

During exam time, I have never taken leave to 'supervise' them. To me, this way is better as I think they are already stressed up one way or another.

This is indeed a pre-Chinese New Year gift for the 2 of us.

Serving National Service

2007-02-08T23:40:00.000+08:00

In Singapore, it is compulsory for all guys reaching age 18 to serve National Service.

So, on 8 April 2005, my only son was enlisted. My husband and I were invited to Pulau Tekong where he and the rest of the company underwent BMT (Basic Military Training). We were given an orientation tour around the premises and also got to taste the food they were to be served.

After 3 months, we were again invited for the passing out parade. It definitely was a MUST Go. Knowing I had a heavy schedule, I remembered my son telling me it's ok if I cannot make it. I told him he is my only son and I will not get another chance if I miss it. So I took half-day leave against the displeasure of my supervisor.

And today, he is finally 'out' after almost 2 years. All I can say is he seems darker and fitter than before. My husband sums it all: "Son, you are now a man!"

Was I worried during the 2 years. Of course. But as his parents, we are proud that our son has done his part for Singapore.

Questions Children Ask About Everyday Life

2007-02-07T23:08:00.000+08:00

Hi Parents

You will agree with me that children learn by asking questions. Well, below is a collection on what they ask about everyday life:

I wonder:

Why I should say “Thank You”?
Who belongs to a family?
Why are there different kinds of families?
What is an adopted child and how do you get one?
Why do we need money?
Why do some mothers go to work and some don’t?
What is a neighbour?
How does a letter get to the right place?
Why do I have to go to school?
Who builds and pays for the school?
Where do teachers come from?
Why do we need policeman and who pays them?
Why are traffic lights green, red and amber?
How does a fireman know which house is on fire?
Why do we need laws and who makes them?
What is the government and do they do?
What is a citizen?
How does a mayor get elected in Singapore?
Who can be President?
Why do people speak different languages?
Do children in all countries play the same game?
Do different countries have different holidays?
How can I get to know children in other countries?
Why must we stay away from strangers?

It’s quite a handful of questions, isn’t it? Well, you do not have to question all at once. Just pick one a day and make it an open session for the whole family to be involved. Everyone is free to air his/her views and share what they know. This way, every family member gets to participate.

Won’t this be a great to interact with each other . . .

Eggplant with Spicy Garlic Sauce/Dried Shrimps

2007-02-06T20:16:00.000+08:00

Brinjal or commonly known as eggplant is a vegetable well-liked by all races in Singapore. The usual cooking practices include baking, barbecuing, frying or pickling the fruits. They can also be pureed, flavoured or used as a dip or chutney as is popular in Mediterranean and Indian cuisines. In Indian cuisine, they are used in curries and even made into soufflés. The cut vegetable is soaked in cold salted water before being cooked to avoid discoloration and to remove its mild bitterness.

Parents, below are 2 recipes that you can try out.

Eggplant with spicy garlic sauce

Ingredients:

500 gm Asian eggplants
Corn flour for dry-coating
200 gm chopped shrimps
50 gm Sichuan pickle, chopped
1 egg
1 tbsp minced garlic
1 tsp minced ginger
1 stalk spring onion, chopped
1 fresh chilli, thinly sliced
Oil for deep-frying

Seasonings:

1 tbsp chopped spring onions
1 tbsp minced ginger
1 tbsp fresh Thai bsil or cilantro
2 tsps corn flour

Sauce:

½ cup or 125 ml soup stock
2 tbsps vinegar
1 tbsp soy sauce
1 tbsp wine
2 tsps sugar
2 tsps corn flour
2 tsps sesame oil

Method (serves 4 – 6 persons):

Cut eggplant diagonally into 1 cm slices. Cut each slice in half lengthwise, but do not cut all the way through.
Dry coat eggplant with corn flour and let stand for 15 minutes
Combine seasoning ingredients in a bowl and set aside
Combine sauce ingredients in another bowl and set aside
Process shrimp, pickle, egg and seasonings in a food processor to a smooth paste
Stuff eggplant with 1 heaping tsp of shrimp filling
Dust again with corn flour to seal filling
Heat cooking oil in a wok over medium-high heat
Deep-fry eggplant, a few pieces at a time until golden brown (about 1 minute)
Remove, drain on paper towel and transfer to a serving platter
Remove all but 2 tbsps oil from wok and heat over medium-heat
Add garlic, ginger, spring onion and chilli
Stir-fry for 10 seconds
Add sauce and bring to a boil
Reduce heat to medium-low
Add eggplant and cook for 2 minutes

Eggplant with dried shrimps

Ingredients:

1 large eggplant
50 gm dried shrimps
4 gloves of garlic
Oil for frying
Sambal chilli (optional)

Method (serves 4 – 6 persons):

Soak dried shrimps with enough water to immerse them for 30 minutes
Cut eggplant into 5 cm length-wise strips and soak in salt water for 2 minutes
Drain the eggplant and set aside
De-skin the garlics
Drain the shrimps and pound with the garlic until fine texture (keep the shrimp water)
Heat 2 tbsps cooking oil in a wok over medium-high heat
Stir-fry eggplant until colour changes, dish out and set aside
With remaining oil, add in the shrimp cum garlic paste and stir-fry for 2 minutes
For spicy version, add in sambal chilli (if not, just omit this step)
Add in the eggplant, followed by shrimp water and mix well
Add another ½ cup of water and simmer for another 3 minutes
Add soy sauce to taste before dishing out

Goodness of eggplant

Eggplant is high in nutrition, low in calories and also used in traditional medicine. In Traditional Chinese Medicine, all parts of the plant can be used to stop intestinal bleeding. The fruit of the plant is used as an antidote in cases of mushroom poisoning. In Indochina, parts of the plant are used as a purgative. For Traditional Malay Medicine, the ashes of the fruit are used in dry, hot poultices to treat hemorrhoids. To treat ulcers, the root is pounded and applied inside the nostrils. The Amboinese take the juice of the root from a wild variety of the plant to ease a difficult labour. Arabs have a superstition that the fruit has high "heating" properties which causes melancholia and madness. For this reason, Malay and Indian women do not consume eggplant for the first 40 days after giving birth.

A Trip to Chinatown with Mama

2007-02-05T22:26:00.000+08:00

Yes, mum and I took Bus CT8 down to Chinatown this morning. It was an impromptu decision. It has been a very long time since the both of us step onto this part of Singapore together. Mum had wanted to buy a pair of shoes for quite some time and did not know where to go. Her existing pair had already worn out.

It was a pleasant 20 minutes ride via CTE. We alighted at Chinatown Point. Went to Fook Hai Building for a walk before proceeding to People's Park Centre. At the second shoe outlet, she finally found the pair that she likes. The pure leather khaki sandal was soft and comfortable. The salesgirl said it was from Italy. A little pricey though. Nonetheless, I paid for it and she wore it there and then. The old pair was discarded.

Then, we moved on to old People's Park. Looked at some clothes but nothing took to her fancy. For lunch, we had dim sum at the 2nd level - siew mai, har kau, fish porridge, chee cheong fun and fried toufu. She sure had good appetite.

Thereafter, we dropped by my uncle's shop on the 3rd level. He has been selling costume jewellery with my aunt there for a long while. Yes, it was a surprise visit. My uncle was glad to see my mum in such spirits. We chatted for a while before we departed to go home.

Back home, she took a nap and was cheerful preparing dinner after that. I sure am glad to have made her day.

As a parent myself, I was delighted that my 2 younger girls are back to normal and in good health.

Delights and Woes of the Week 0705

2007-02-04T22:25:00.000+08:00

Well, this week has been a satisfying one, I am delighted that I:

helped a friend in her Chinese presentation on Tuesday night
attended a dinner Thursday night at Home Team NS at Ah Hood Road and made some new friends
had a complimentary facial done on Friday Morning at Youth & You at Temple St, in the heart of Singapore's Chinatown
shared art aspect on elements of design with Class 2.5 at Balestier Hill Primary School on Friday afternoon
was involved in a roadshow today and got a few parents to go for a complimentary workshop which will help their children to learn studying techniques
did Reiki on a number of people and aid in their healing

Now for the woes:

My mum was down with fever on Thursday but has since recovered on Friday
My youngest daughter, Yu Sin, was also having fever and sore throat. Fever has gone but she still has husky voice

Parents, hope you have a pleasant week too.

Time Well Spent

2007-02-03T22:15:00.000+08:00

Today, I stayed home the whole day, except going to the grocery store to get some weekly supplies. Besides doing the usual chores of washing the clothes and some house-keeping, I had a relaxing time.

As I have a roadshow tomorrow, I did some paper preparation work. In the afternoon, did some reading and also catch a short nap. Thereafter, checked the email and played some internet game.

Then, I cooked dinner - 2 simple dishes and a soup. For dessert, we had guava. In addition, I took an ice-cream. Also, called my mum for a short chat.

It may be an ordinary day but to me, it was time well spent. I just felt good. In Singapore, parents usually do not have the time to relax. Try doing simple things and find joy when doing so. It's another form of de-stress.

Want To Be A Writer

2007-02-02T23:18:00.000+08:00

About 2 weeks ago, I got an invitation from The Society of Singapore Writers to attend their First Friday Writer’s Corner. So tonight, I was there at YMCA Orchard to meet other ‘writers’.

16 people turned up, including me – the youngest was in her 20s and the oldest is beyond 60. 3 of them already had their books published; majority have written articles; some are in the process of publishing them and a couple of them are finishing their book.

I shared about my blog on parenting tips with them. Most of the men present were retirees and had all the time in the world to share their experiences. There sure was good interaction and tips given by some of them were definitely useful.

For parents who are interested in writing, you may log on to http://www.sgwriters.org.sg

Follow Your Heart

2007-02-02T00:28:00.000+08:00

Since June 2005, after crossing 29 years of service with the same company, I have been asking this question: "Do I want to work till I am 55 or 60 with this company?" The answer repeatedly is no.

So, I started my journey of exploration. What do I want to do after my 'retirement'? Interestingly, I attended many talks, took up courses and made new friends. I also see new horizons. Finally, the time came for me to make a decision when I crossed my 30 years of service.

I talked to my children and they supported my decision to leave. I also brief my mum and youngest sister of my new found interest to go into training. So In October 2006, I found that the time was right and informed my supervisors of my departure.

My other siblings and colleagues felt that I had made a hasty decision since I still have 4 school-going children and a non-working husband.

Well Singapore parents, I FOLLOW MY HEART. Life is short and it is important that we spend our life meaningfully. I want to share what I know with others and inspire them in one way or another. To date, no regrets.

Monthly Reflections 0701

2007-02-01T00:44:00.000+08:00

How time flies, it’s the end of the first month of 2007 and what have I done?

Based on the Wish List that I had drawn up in early Jan, my achievements are:

Only managed to go brisk walking with my husband on the first week of Jan 2007. As at 24/01/07, his weight was 72.9 kg, down 1.5 kg as compared to last check-up in Oct 2006.
For spring-cleaning and house-keeping, progress may be slow but still did some disposals and some parts of the house is cleaner.
Did go to my mum’s house about twice a week, cook for her and cheered her up.
Met up with 5 successful people who have very positive attitudes. Notice some of their distinct traits like cheerfulness, tolerance level, high energy level, lovingness and NLP techniques.
Had inspired 2 people to go self-improvement courses that will open their horizons on new openings awaiting them.
Had a facial done during mid-month and it was simply good feeling.
Completed Reiki II course and have been helping others in need of the extra boost of energy.
Have been driving my children to sleep by 11 pm with about 30% success. Will try harder.
Sold some shares and made some passive money to supplement expenses.
Have been blogging almost every day.

Task to be done in Feb 2007

Must spend more time to do brisk walking with my husband. Target to bring 1 kg of down every month until he hits 65 kg.
With Chinese New Year around the corner, must expedite more spring-cleaning.
Continue to make new friends with success and learn from them.
Go for one massage and one facial for maintenance of well-being.
Continue to Reiki those in need, especially family members.
Continue to ‘nag’ my children to be in bed by 11 pm.
Target to enroll 10 students for self-improvement courses that will benefit them in the long term.
Start gathering materials on parenting tips.
Keep blogging daily and to increase traffic flow.
Get a maid for my mum as a companion and help with household chores.

Singapore parents, how have your first month of Jan 2007 been? Care to share???

Chicken/Prawn Apple Appetizer

2007-01-30T13:41:00.000+08:00

Today, I am going to share with Singapore parents on using green apple as an appetizer.

Ingredients:
1 medium size green apple (diced)
300 gms of chicken meat (diced) or 300 gms of prawns (scaled)
2 teaspoon of TABASCO pepper sauce
2 teaspoon honey
Half teaspoon of coriander roots
1 teaspoon coriander leaves
1 teaspoon grated lemon rind
2 teaspoon lemon juice

Method (with CHICKEN):

Season diced chicken with 1 tablespoon of corn flour and 1 teaspoon of soy sauce
Heat wok and add 2 tablespoon of oil
Lightly fry till golden brown with medium heat
Dish out chicken and set aside to cool down before mixing with all the other ingredients
Chill well before serving

Method (with PRAWNS):

Scale prawns fully
Scald the prawns in boiling water (with a pinch of salt added to the water)
When the prawns turned to red colour, switch off the fire
Drain out prawns and let cool down before mixing with all the other ingredients
Chill well before serving

(You may want to retain the prawn water as stock for soup)

The above either version are simple enough to cook and is a really appetizer. So parents, do try them out. For those with smaller children, perhaps you should go easy with the pepper sauce.

Love Thyself

2007-01-29T14:16:00.000+08:00

Hi Parents

In busy Singapore environment, very often, we are concerned with our kids and family. So much so, we tend to forget ourselves. Here's some pointers on HOW TO LOVE YOURSELF by Louise L Hay.

1. STOP ALL CRITICISM

Criticism never changes a thing. Refuse to criticize yourself. Accept yourself exactly as you are. Everybody changes. When you criticize yourself, your changes are negative. When you approve of yourself, your changes are positive.

2. DON’T SCARE YOURSELF

Stop terrorizing yourself with your thoughts. It’s a dreadful way to live. Find a mental image that gives your pleasure (mine is yellow roses) and immediately switch your scary thought to a pleasure thought.

3. BE GENTLE, KIND AND PATIENT

Be gentle with yourself. Be kind to yourself. Be patient with yourself as you learn the new ways of thinking. Treat yourself as you would someone your really loved.

4. BE KIND TO YOUR MIND

Self hatred is only hating your own thoughts. Don’t hate yourself for having the thoughts. Gently change your thoughts.

5. PRAISE YOURSELF

Criticism breaks down the inner spirit. Praise builds it up. Praise yourself as much as you can. Tell yourself how well you are doing with every little thing.

6. SUPPORT YOURSELF

Find ways to support yourself. Reach out to friends and allow them to help you. It is being strong to ask for help when you need it.

7. BE LOVING TO YOUR NEGATIVES

Acknowledge that you created them to fulfill a need. Now you are finding new, positive ways to fulfill those needs. So lovingly release the old negative patterns.

8. TAKE CARE OF YOUR BODY

Learn about nutrition. What kind of fuel does your body need to have optimum energy and vitality? Learn about exercise. What kind of exercise can you enjoy? Cherish and revere the temple you live in.

9. MIRROR WORK

Look into your eyes often. Express this sense of love you have for yourself. Forgive yourself looking into the mirror. Talk to your parents looking into the mirror. Forgive them too. At least once a day say: “I Love you, I really Love you.”

10. DO IT NOW

Don’t wait until you get well, or lose the weight, or get the new job, or the new relationship. Begin now – do the best you can.

So parents, do spare some time loving yourself. Hope above tips help.

Delights and Woes of the Week 0704

2007-01-28T21:15:00.000+08:00

This week, I would like to start with the woes first.

Yesterday, I lost my temper and scolded my husband. He was trying to help but what he did annoyed me so I blew my top. I have learnt to let out my frustration out instead of cooping inside me.

Parents, when you do have frustrations, do let them out or share them with someone instead of keeping everything to yourself. It will do your internal organs more good than harm and they will then function better. You will then have less ailments.

Now for the delights:

Kept my mum company on Monday and Friday. Physically, she is getting better. Mood wise, still need more cheering.
Accompanied my husband for his quarterly check-up at Singapore Toa Payoh Polyclinic on Wednesday morning. He lost about 1 kg, as compared from the last visit. Need to work harder to reduce more weight.
Completed my Reiki II course on Thursday. Hope to help more people achieve better wellness in their health.
Had a good night sleep last night from after midnight till 9 am this morning. It had been a long time since I last slept so well.
This afternoon, helped a comrade to enrol a Sec 4 student for advances learning techniques with MindChamps.
My youngest daughter, Yu Sin, shared that she won the badminton's tournament. Next week, 2 more games coming up.

So much for this week.

Showing Love and Respect for others

2007-01-27T17:07:00.000+08:00

"The most important work you will ever do is within the walls of your own home!" - David O. McKay

Many people ask me how I manage 4 children and stay in workforce for so long, especially in Singapore context.

Well, showing love and respect for each other is very important. From young, I ENCOURAGE my children to:

E njoy doing chores for the family such as cooking and housework
N ote each other's likes and dislikes
C are for the younger ones and teach them when they are in doubt
O wn up wrong-doings such as telling the truth and face the consequence
U se appropriate decision-making skills
R ecognise that everyone needs privacy at times
A void criticism and name callings
G reet their elders, be it at home or when they make visits to their homes
E xchange ideas when doing projects

Hope parents will find the above tips useful. As the saying goes, it is up to us as parents to teach important values such as love and respect to our family.

Where is my 5-year old?

2007-01-26T23:29:00.000+08:00

Hi Parents
Tonight, would like to jolt your memory back to the time when you were a 5-year old kid. What was it like?

Well, as far as I can remember, my 5-year old had been a care-free one. No school yet, all I did with my siblings and neighbours was eat, play and sleep. Although there was no computer, we had fun doing things like:

playing marbles
throwing 5 stones
jumping the BIG balloon
rope skipping
playing catching
watching TV (black and white) in neighbour's house
blowing soap bubbles
tapping paper balloon

In Singapore, working life can be rather stressful. But no matter how old we are, there is always a child inside us. Should you feel very tense on certain days, why not go to a nearest playground and sit down. Just watch the children play. If you want to join in the fun, go ahead. Or, just be a 5-year for a day and do what you want to do as a 5-year old.

This is one good way to de-stress. Try it and you will be amazed that you find joy again.

Questions Children Ask About Animals and Plants

2007-01-25T13:59:00.000+08:00

Hi Parents

Below are some questions that your children may ask about animals and plants:

About Animals

I wonder:

why do birds fly away together when the weather gets cold?
can they talk to each other and say "Let's go now"?
why does my cat hide her new kittens? I would not hurt them.
why do horses need shoes? Cats and dogs do not need them.
how can a bear sleep all winter? Does it not get hungry or thirsty? How does it know when to wake up?
how can a fly walk on the ceiling? Why does it not fall off?
how can a duck sit in the water without getting its feathers wet. I get wet when I am in the water.
why do squirrels and birds and fishes have tails?
how do fireflies make their tiny lights?
why does a turtle live in a shell?

About Plants

why does a morning-glory close in the afternoon? Can flowers tell time?
why do leaves turn red and gold in the autumn? Pine needles do not turn colour.
why do trees not die in the winter?
how do wild flowers get planted?
why do bees fly to flowers?
how can you tell how old a tree is?
how can you tell one tree from another tree?
how do plants eat? Do some plants really catch insects? Do they eat them after catching them?
were there always trees and flowers? What is the oldest plant in the world?

Well parents, for some of the answers to the questions, you do need to look up the encyclopedia. For some, how about making a trip down to the Singapore Zoo and some of the parks, gardens and nature reserves to explore further.

Below is the list of parks, gardens and nature reserves in Singapore:

Agriculture farms
Bukit Timah Nature Reserve
Chek Jawa
Chinese Garden
East Coast Park
Fort Canning Park
Labrador Park
MacRitchie, Peirce and Seleter Reservoirs
Mandai Orchid Garden
Marina City Park
Mount Faber
Pasir Ris Park
Singapore Botanic Gardens
Sungei Buloh Wetland Reserve

HAPPY EXPLORING . . .

Lotus Root Soups

2007-01-24T14:23:00.000+08:00

Lotus Root Soups

Lotus root (莲藕) is the rhizome of the nelumbo, also know as the Egyptian lotus, Indian lotus or sacred lotus. It is an aquatic herbal plant with peltate leaves borne above and floating on the surface of the water. The edible pale yellow rhizome is submerged in mud.

It has been eaten as food for thousands of years. In the medicinal aspect, lotus roots purity the blood. The young rhizome when harvested for eating, tastes like artichokes. The older ones are considered diuretic and are harvested all year round. When sliced transversely for use in soups in Chinese cooking, each piece will see many holes in it.

(1) Lotus root soup with octopus (serves 4 – 6 persons)

(Lotus roots purify the blood & dried octopus improves blood circulation)

Ingredients:

1 lotus root, washed well & cut into circular slices
200g Meat Bones, scalded in boiling water for 3 minutes
2 slices of old ginger
8 red dates (de-stoned)
2 pieces dried octopus, washed

Method (1) – using the crockpot:

Put all ingredients into a crockpot, fill ¾ full with HOT water.
Boil for 2 hours at medium heat.
Add light soy sauce (optional)

Method (2) – using the convention pot:

Put all ingredients into a deep pot, fill in 6 bowls of HOT water.
Bring to boil and reduce to low heat. Boil for 4 hours.
Add light soy sauce (optional)

(2) Lotus root soup with pork ribs (serves 1 – for confinement mothers)

Ingredients:

1 lotus root, washed well & cut into circular slices
300g pork ribs (preferably the pig’s tail portion), scalded in boiling water for 3 minutes
20 red dates (de-stoned)

Method:

Put all ingredients into a deep pot, fill in 4 bowls of HOT water.
Bring to boil and reduce to low heat. Boil for about 5 - 6 hours until the soup is about one bowl for consumption.

(The pork ribs can also be eaten, with the red dates, the meat taste sweet.)

(3) Lotus root with chicken and sweet potato soup (serves 2 – 4 people)

Ingredients:

Half lotus root, washed well & cut into circular slices
Half a spring chicken (chopped into smaller chunks), scalded in boiling water for 3 minutes

2 pieces sweet potatoes (the yellow/orange variety, cut into thick slices)

5 - 6 red dates (cleaned and soaked)

1 large onion (bashed)
1 knob ginger (bashed)

Method (1) – using the crockpot:

Put all ingredients into a crockpot, fill ¾ full with HOT water.
Boil for 1 hours at high heat.
Add light soy sauce (optional)

Method (2) – using the convention pot:

Put all ingredients into a deep pot, fill in 5 bowls of HOT water.
Bring to boil and reduce to low heat. Boil for 2 hours.
Add light soy sauce (optional)

Singapore parents, do try the above recipes out, especially (1) and (3). For recipe (2), it is more suitable for confinement mothers and older women folks. Men, avoid this.

Communication among siblings

2007-01-22T23:16:00.000+08:00

I have 3 brothers and 2 sisters. When we were young, we play together, go to school together and do a lot of other things together.

When we grew older and started to work, things began to change. We talk lesser to each other. Lucky for our parents, we still have activities during the weekends. We would go to restaurants around Singapore to try out different special dishes.

After one by one got married, exchanges get even lesser. We would still meet at our parents' home during weekends. When our children came along, priority is on them and sometimes we see each other less than 20 times a year. Of course, Chinese New Year would be a rowdy one where all will bring their children to pay respects to our elders.

After my dad's demise last year, we had intended to spend more time with our mum. However, there seemed to be communication breakdown. Mum was left alone most of the time and that was how depression set in. Of late, we have been talking to each other more often, to help mum regain her old self.

It is rather sad that we had to wait for a crisis to happen before coming to unity again. For the sake of our mum, I sincerely hope this will continue.

Delights and Woes of the Week 0703

2007-01-21T23:59:00.000+08:00

Finally, we got to see the sun this week in Singapore. So, I am delighted that:

I went to the Toa Payoh temple to pay respect to my dad on 17/1/2007 (his birthday).
The CPT event on Make an IMPACT in your presentations on 17/1/2007 at Suntec City Guild House was a success with 17 participants turning up.
I was able to spent a day with my mum and cheer her up a bit. She is now more agreeable to get a maid.
I enrolled my daughter, Yu Mei, for Reiki from 19/1 - 21/1. Hope she will benefit from these 2 half-day sessions, both physically and emotionally.
I get to meet familiar faces again and also made some new friends during these few days.

For the woes, have yet to do some spring cleaning this week and also filing of documents. Must kick this habit of piling up.

Parents, hope you have been doing the delights and woes with your children on a daily basis. I am also trying to my kids to share theirs with me.

Reunion dinner

2007-01-20T22:59:00.000+08:00

This year, Chinese New Year is on 19 February 2007 which is about one month away. Trationally, Chinese families would gather for a feast one day before the start of the Lunar New Year. This meal is known as "tuan yuan fan" (团圆饭) or "Reunion Dinner" since it is almost always eaten after nightfall as the last meal of the old year. The venue is usually held in the home of the most senior member of the family.

This is one of the most important meals for the Chinese. Members of the family, near and far, get together for celebration. The reunion dinner should be eaten with all immediate family members present as a symbol of strength and unity in the family.

There is usually an abundance of food prepared for this meal, even by poorer families. The Chinese believe that having an excess of food on the table symbolizes good fortune for the New Year, as it would bring excess wealth. Depending on which Chinese ethnic group and region, below are some traditional food or meals that are prepared on this special day:

"Jiao zi" (饺子), or dumplings. Meat and vegetables are wrapped not with rice but with a skin made of flour. This is a food commonly eaten as a meal in Beijing or northern parts of China. Family members would join in to make the dumplings which can be eaten throughout the New Year.
Steamboat dinner, or "huo guo" (火锅). This is popular in Singapore and Malaysia. A family sits around a pot of steaming soup, place uncooked pieces of food into it and fish it out when it's ready. This dish is easily prepared dinner since all is needed is uncooked food and the soup.
"Fa cai" (发菜), or black moss, is eaten as the name of the moss sounds like "to become prosperous" in Chinese.
Fish (魚, yú) is a must but not eaten up completely (and the remainder is stored overnight), as the Chinese phrase 年年有餘 (nián nián yǒu yú), which means "may there be surpluses every year", sounds the same as "may there be fish every year."
Raw fish salad, or "yu sheng" (鱼生), may also be eaten. This dish is not found in China, but in Singapore, Malaysia and Hong Kong. Its name sounds like "growing luck". This dish is also eaten on the 7th day of the Lunar New Year.
"Nian gao" (年糕), also known as year cakes, may be fried to usher in the New Year. This is a sweet, sticky and glutinous cake which the Chinese believe that would make the New Year sweet and bring prosperity.
Some Taoist or Buddhist families might abstain from meat throughout the New Year. However, for poorer families, this might be the only time of the year when they can eat meat in abundance. A kind of preserved meat, called "rou gan" or dried meat, is popular during this season.
Another popular dish is tamarind and star anise chicken.
Buddha's delight, also known as 罗汉斋 (luóhàn zhāi), is an elaborate traditional vegetarian dish comprising 18 ingredients. A type of black hair-like algae, pronounced "fatt choy" in Cantonese, is also featured in Buddha's delight and other dishes, since its name sounds similar to fatt choy, the Cantonese word for "prosperity."

This list is definitely not exhaustive as many Chinese communities living around the world may have their own unique food or dish for the reunion dinner.

Shou Sui

守岁（Shou Sui) is when members of the family gather around throughout the night after the reunion dinner. During this time, they will reminisce about the year that has passed while welcoming the year that has arrived. Some people also believe that children who 守岁 (Shou Sui) will help to increase the longevity of the parents.

So parents, do share with your children on the significance of Reunion Dinner and Shou Sui. It is a good tradition to be passed down.

Internet Usage by Youngsters in Singapore

2007-01-19T14:21:00.000+08:00

On the front page of today's Straits Times - "Young children lead online charge in Singapore".

The annual IDA survey shows that:

90% of children under age group 10 - 14 use the Internet to communicate, play and learn
64% come from those in the age group 15 - 59
20% are those above 60 who were the least Net-savvy

And what are the top online activities that are of interest to these children (10 - 14)?

60% send email (42% uses MSN Messenger to send instant messages)
58% play games
52% use internet for learning
33% visit chatrooms
27% share personal data in social sites like the Friendster
18% download music/movies

In this present era, the Internet is inextricably woven into the lives of today's kids. Like one student said: "I cannot imagine life without the Internet." While this may be a fact, parents still need to be aware of the time spent by children on the internet. This is to ensure that they are not addicted to computer gaming. Take note of the following:

Is your child spending more and more time on gaming?
Is he/she neglecting his studies, CCA, family and friends?
Is his/her study or CCA performance deteriorating?
Is he/she feeling restless, irritable or discontent when not playing computer game?
Is he/she going to bed much later than usual or waking up 4 am in the morning just to play the game before going to school?
Is he/she developing health problems such as eye strain, weight gain and backaches?
Is he/she lying to the family and teachers about his playing pattern?
Is he/she feeling guilty, anxious or upset because of his habit?
Is he/she denying or rationalizing the negative consequences resulting from playing too much computer game?

If you answer is "YES" to several of the questions, then your child could be addicted to computer gaming! Want to know more of these 'danger' signs log on to http://www.parentingchampions.com/.

" Be Alert! Before Your Child become a Computer Gaming Junkie "